Silk scarves: The perfect travel accessory!

Going to Paris? Just pack black ensembles and enhance them with brightly colored silk scarves!

When I recently traveled on a CEO.Org tour to Jerusalem, Bethlehem, and the Galilee Sea, my wardrobe needed to adapt to various temperatures, venues, and dress codes. What is my magic “travel wardrobe” accessory? A collection of silk scarves, in a medley of sizes and colors!

Shoe shopping in Paris, oh la la! ! My daughter Alexandra had a pink scarf tied around her waist like a belt, adding color to her outfit. My darling granddaughter tried on her Mummy’s heels, avec a pink scarf around her neck… start them young!

Scarves can transform an outfit and be worn more than once for a varied chic appearance. From casual to dressy, a silk scarf can provide just the right touch, with minimal effort! Scarves can be worn in a myriad of ways, either around one’s neck, as a wrap (90” x 90” size) for warmth, or to cover one’s arms while visiting a church. They add pizazz to a purse when tied around the handle.

A colorful scarf will enhance a monotone ensemble, can be used as a decorative belt, and can embellish a hat, as shown above.

A scarf can be used to cover one’s hair from the wind, aka Jackie Kennedy and Karen's chic style!

Grandmillennial Tips:

Because silk scarves can be rawwther expensive, I place my scarves in my carry-on luggage, so if my checked luggage gets lost or is delayed, I can always add a scarf from my carry-on bag to enhance any plain, black, or pink outfit. 

To keep my pressed scarves from wrinkling in a suitcase, I fold them in a square and slip them into a gallon-sized zip-lock bag.  It works like a charm!  

A selection of scarves requires a minimal amount of space in a suitcase. A few scarves can readily transform one outfit into a multitude of outfits. 

The colorful designs on scarves adds a lovely dimension to the simplest black or monotone sheath dress, slacks, blouse or sweater. My daughter Caroline, with a pretty scarf on, cheered me on when I gave a speech to introduce my television show to the American Public Television convention in Salt Lake City.

I hope to inspire you to pack and incorporate scarves for your next trip so that you can vary your wardrobe too if you don’t already!

My daughter-in-law, Karen Holden, and I show you several methods to tie and wear Hermes silk scarves in this video (click here or above on the play button). 

XX,

Holly

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Wall brackets: Perfect for well-appointed walls!

In the living room at Fox Hall there is a pair of antique Italianate gilded wall brackets on either side of an oil painting discovered at a gallery in Prague. To this day, it is one of our children’s favorite paintings! The antique Chinese porcelain jars, purchased in Hong Kong in the 1960’s, were given to me by my parents. The delicate wall brackets serve to complement the graceful curves of the porcelain.

A pair of lovely wall brackets will enhance any wall! 

Wall brackets support three-dimensional artwork such as porcelain vases, sculptures, clocks, and even candlestick holders. They have graced interiors in Europe for centuries. Wall brackets are my go-to decorative element for embellishing a room.

The collection of Canton porcelain is flanking the 8' long portrait of my English grandfather. Due to the circumference of the porcelain, they required rather large wall brackets.

Wall brackets give dimension to a wall. I recommend always purchasing them in pairs for symmetry. They come in all sizes, shapes, and forms: gilded wood, stone, plaster, acrylic, and other media forms.

This pair is based on an 18th-century design, They are hand-carved with antique gold gilt. Scully and Scully offer some lovely options.

Wall brackets should complement the object they hold, as well as the room! They are discussed in detail in my book, The Pretty & Proper Living Room.

My husband and I purchased a set of four gilded brackets from the Mario Buatta sale at Sotheby’s in NYC and they now happily grace our Palm Beach living room.

Grandmillennial Tips:

When you discover a pretty pair of wall brackets, buy them! 

If you have a piece of porcelain, such as a vase or a Chinese ginger jar, and wish to display it on a wall bracket, remember to measure the widest point of the porcelain piece, and the depth of the wall bracket shelf. The widest point on the porcelain may require a larger shelf surface on the wall bracket, to accommodate the depth of the vase.

In a house with slamming doors and overzealous housekeepers, remember to stick a small piece of museum putty or posterboard clay under the porcelain pieces displayed on wall brackets. This helps to keep the pieces in place. 

There are endless options to place on wall brackets. Look around your house for a pair of something pretty, and ponder… are they "wall bracket-worthy?!"

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To hang a pair of wall brackets too high when placed on either side of a piece of artwork. 

What is done: Try to center the entire composition of both the wall bracket and the item that is placed upon it, on the overall length of the artwork or mirror. If anything, the composition can be hung a scant lower than the true center of the artwork. 

XX,

Holly

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Bridal pictures: how to display them!

The Smoking Room at Highclere Castle features a console table behind the sofa which is sprinkled with stunning bridal pictures of various relatives. Photo Credit: Chris McLaughlin on Pinterest

A lovely tradition that I have witnessed in classically designed houses is a table devoted to bridal photographs, as an homage to various brides within the family tree. Traditionally, the assembled portraits would only feature the bride in a formal pose. But, in present-day tradition, pictures of the bride and groom, whether in black & white or color, are often included on the same table with the other family brides.

I have always been enamored with the Duchess’s butter-yellow sitting room in the Private Apartments at Blenheim Palace in Woodstock, England. While filming my television programthere, I admired the magnificent bridal photograph of Lady Henrietta Spencer-Churchill. It was presented on the table behind me with the lamp, along with her other relatives as brides.

The elegant examples of formal bridal portrait photographs which I observed in English country houses and palaces are traditionally in black & white, or in a sepia tone. Occasionally, a few photographs in color are added in the line-up too. Bridal photographs are traditionally grouped together and displayed in the living room on a side table, on a grand piano, or behind a sofa. They can also be placed in other rooms. 

Obviously, the formality of the house, and the photograph itself, dictate the style of the picture frame, which can be ornate or a plain, modern design.  The most traditional bridal picture frame is sterling silver or silver-plated. A French enamel frame is another stunning choice. Italian fine leather with gold embellishments or antique gilded frames are also appropriate for a bridal portrait.

What an enchanting experience to tour the ravishing Rienzi House at the Museum of Fine Arts in Houston, Texas with Carroll Goodman, the granddaughter of the owners who built it. I was captivated by the wedding memories that she shared with me. Carroll wore her mother’s wedding gown, a charming tradition that continues to carry on through other brides in her family line. The antique console table in the living room features several bridal portraits, including Carroll! (The little boy is Carroll’s Uncle Bert Winston.)

In my book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, I discuss how and where to engrave a silver picture frame.  If the wedding photograph is just of the bride, then a monogram with her new married name initials is in order. If it is of the husband and wife, then their joint initial monogram is appropriate. The other option is the wedding date!

XX,

Holly

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Bridal veils! How long should a bride wear her veil?

Our daughter, Caroline, was married at Marble House in Newport, Rhode Island. This vision of her with her father makes my heart flutter! Her white orchid bouquet complemented the flowers on her wedding dress, along with the few additional flowers that the designer had sewn onto the veil, per the request of my daughter.

With June approaching, weddings are in the air!  Do you know why June is traditionally the most popular month to marry? June is derived from Juno, the goddess of marriage, and the protector of women. A wedding in June is considered auspicious, so the couple will be blessed with happiness forever!   

Brides traditionally wear white and a veil. The tradition of the wedding veil is thought to have begun during the Roman Empire. Back then, the bride was considered an object of desire for evil spirits, so the veil, or blusher veil,  served to protect her until she reached the altar. Then, the groom lifted it to expose her face to him first.  The custom of a bride wearing white began in 1840 when Queen Victoria wore a white wedding gown and veil. White continues to relay the purity associated with brides, and the veil adds to this aura. 

I was honored to be the guest speaker in Houston, Texas, at the River Oaks Garden Club, where I was spoiled royally by the most gracious ladies! While at the Houston Country Club for lunch with my two hosts, Carroll Goodman and Risse Knight, I heard a sweet story about Risse’s daughter’s wedding in the oval ballroom there. She had a few requests of her darling daughter: to wear a blusher veil (which covers the bride’s face until presented to the groom) and to keep her bridal veil on for the first dance and for the cake cutting ceremony.  Why? She said, “Some of the important highlights and memories are captured during the reception moments and the photographs would not have been the same if she took the veil off… she needed to be in full bridal gear!”  Love those Southern gals!  

Risse’s beautiful daughter, Mary Alex, is seen here cutting the cake with her new husband, Carter. What a stunning vision all around! Her veil was a circular cathedral veil with a wide Chantilly lace border.

I had never thought about taking my veil off as a young bride. My veil simply stayed on until I changed into my get-away outfit, ready to depart the reception and begin my new married life with my husband, Stuart. After the ceremonial toss of my wedding bouquet to my bridesmaids on the brick terrace, we boarded the Bell helicopter which twirled onto the putting green at the Country Club of Virginia, ready to whisk us away. With the main rotor spinning, how glad I was that my veil had been removed!

Our daughter, Alexandra, was married to Maximilian in the monumental Berlin Dom, Germany. She wore a cathedral-length Brussels lace veil and carried pale pink peonies in her bouquet. Her veil remained on during the first reception after the wedding ceremony but was removed for the ball, which was held later that evening.

Today's brides tend to remove their veils after the photographs have been taken at the church. Either way is correct. What do you think is best? I really never gave this much thought until now. I tend to agree with Risse. Seeing a blusher veil on a bride walking down the aisle is magically romantic. And when a veil remains on the bride during the reception, it adds to the sense of tradition and grace of the celebratory occasion. So, if you are a mother-of-the-bride or a bride-to-be, you too can contemplate the pros and cons of how long to wear a wedding veil… and think twice before stripping it off too fast!

I cannot imagine Mummy taking her veil off during the wedding reception because back then, it was just not done!

XX,

Holly

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Common Courtesies: Entering a Doorway!

How elated I was to attend my “big number” reunion at St. Catherine’s School, an Episcopal girl’s private school in Richmond, Virginia, which started in 1890… and no, I’m not THAT old!

How grateful I am to my parents for the opportunity to attend a school that embraces gracious traditions and gave me lifelong friends and comradery.  Seeing my dear classmates felt as if no time had passed!

At the reunion, many commented about my newsletter and how they share it with their children and grandchildren… the ultimate compliment!  My darling classmate, Caroline, suggested the topic of  “common courtesies” as a refresher to adults and as a reminder to our children. In particular, the polite courtesy of how to go in and out of doorways! 

“All doors open to courtesy.” – Thomas Fuller

Proper protocol suggests that the person coming out of the door has the right of way, and the person outside of the door, politely waits to the side, and if possible, offers to hold the door open while the other person departs the building. 

A gracious welcome commences at the front door! My husband cleverly plants seasonal flowers in the urns by the front door at Fox Hall.

While in Williamsburg, Virginia, I walked to The Cheese Shop for their yummy Virginia peanuts. A 10-year-old boy came out of the door, saw me waiting outside, and let the door slam shut in front of me. I surmise that he didn't know better. Not a big deal, but then again it is, because unless you teach your children common courtesies, they will never know. Like all manners, they are taught.  Manners are not innate behaviors.  (Parents, don’t you wish they were?!)

“Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot.”- C. Thomas

And, elevator doors? How many times have you had to say, “excuse me” to people eager to board the elevator but block the door outside as you attempt to exit the elevator?  Those waiting for the elevator should kindly stand to the side, not in front of it. This is an important courtesy to teach children. And subway doors, well, good luck with that… that is a whole other dilemma! 

When you push or pull a door open, look behind you to see if someone else is coming, and hold it open for them. 

Even at The Farmington Polo Club, the person leading a horse out of the barn, has the right of way. If there is a horse and rider outside, they move aside until the horse and rider walk out of the barn.

Grandmillennial Tips:

Speaking of doors, when a polite gentleman, who may be ahead of you, stops to hold a door open for you upon entering a building, make a point of thanking him, while also encouraging him to go in front of you if there is a queue, i.e., the post office. In essence, he was there before you, yet kindly stopped to open the door for you. Why should he have to wait behind you to be served, when he was there first? This is a new  “common courtesy” for ladies to extend to gentlemen, especially in this age of equality. Many men hesitate to open a door for a lady these days for fear they will hear unpleasantries from the lady that she is capable of doing it herself! I find the act of opening a door for a lady to be exceptionally thoughtful and am flattered by this courteous and polite gesture. 

When you see a Mum with a baby stroller, dash to open the door for her! As a mother and grandmum, I can relate to the struggle of trying to open a door whilst pushing a stroller through.

“Be an opener of doors.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

XX,

Holly
 

P.S.
HOW TO REMOVE LIPSTICK STAINS FROM NAPKINS: 

A subscriber inquired how to take lipstick stains off of linen napkins. Laura, another dear subscriber, referred to her involvement at Hearst Castle, CA. “Once a year, the Collections Department (fancy term for cleaning & care of everything!) at Hearst Castle had the linen closets emptied, washed and ironed. Some of the cocktail napkins had smears of lipstick.” Her lipstick removal recommendation: “Dawn liquid detergent, which was also used on the "massive" Persian Rugs. If Dawn doesn't remove the stain, Mrs. Stewart's (not Martha) will work too.” 

Cocktail Napkins Add a Touch of Elegance!

Pink-trimmed cocktail napkins are primed to be plucked out of an English silver toast caddy in the living room. Drinks, anyone?!

Mummy always said, “Paper napkins are for picnics, linen napkins are for lovely guests!”  She offered a linen cocktail napkin to her guests when serving drinks at any time of the day. This old-school proper entertaining accessory may seem retro, but they announce "Party!" to me! 

Cocktail napkins can be customized easily with the design of amusing objects to reflect your interests, and they can be embroidered with your family crest, or for formal occasions, with simple white on white embroidery. It is delightful to discover precious new linen designs on my travels, and it’s a joy to collect a myriad of cocktail napkins for various occasions and design schemes. My predominant justification: Party time is “pretty time!”

Occasionally, I receive one of my cocktail napkins sent back with a note from a guest! Gentlemen have a propensity to pop them in their pocket at some point during cocktail hour. I imagine it’s because it feels like a handkerchief, which naturally goes back into the pocket. They are always sheepishly embarrassed to have "lifted" one of my napkins… but to me, it is an endearing compliment!

I estimate about two cocktail napkins per guest: one for drinks and another to pass with hors d’oeuvres. 

Unique designs can be an opportunity to show your personal style, and can also become a conversation piece. Mummy had little ones with roosters embroidered on them. When I inquired "Why roosters, for heaven's sake?" her response was, "Cock-tails, my dear!" That answered that! On my YouTube channel, I show an example of this.

My daughter, Alexandra, surprised me with a set of these adorable napkins which she found at the gift store at The Breakers Hotel, and so perfect for the Hunt Room at Fox Hall.

Can you imagine how thrilled I was to receive these beautifully painted, bespoke cocktail napkins from Lemondaisy Design with my logo on them? Perfect for my pink Palm Beach living room!

Grandmillennial Tips:

Cloth cocktail napkins make splendid hostess gifts. I positively adore receiving them; one can never have too many, right? 

For a large function (a wedding, engagement party, Christening, etc.), consider buying cloth cocktail napkins in bulk.  Cost-wise, it is almost the same as renting, and then, you can then keep them for future parties.

Opt to have some custom embroidered napkins with your initials, or to match a motif in your house.

If you have a cocktail napkin that is “perfectly you,” consider having it framed and hanging it as art near your bar.

In my book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, on page 103 I discuss cocktail napkins and a simple way to maintain them.

Here is an idea to present to your volunteer clubs! Our Garden Club of Hartford is “going green” by reusing the same cotton cocktail napkins for all of our meetings, versus throwing the paper napkins out.   

Collecting bespoke, playful,  informal, or formal linen cocktail napkins can become a delightful obsession!  They are available at notable linen shops (Lori Jayne, Palm Beach), online, through auctions, and on Etsy.

Forbidden Faux Pas

No-no: To use a linen cocktail napkin as a receptacle for pits, toothpicks, or an unwanted bite. If possible, find a plate or another vessel, or excuse yourself for a moment to dispose of these items properly.

Time to host a party… cheers!

XX,

Holly

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Teeny-tiny flower arrangements- darling & done!

There is something quite charming about little flower bouquets! With spring upon us in New England, the hopeful anticipation of pretty flowers in the garden comes to mind. No matter what size your house is, consider making a few petite flower arrangements by using very small and unique vases. The joy and allure of lilliputian-sized arrangements sprinkled about in your house will bring an unexpected delight when discovered.

These tiny silver riding boot vases are from England. The flowers were picked from my mother-in-law’s bountiful Cape Cod garden.

Simply pluck a few blossoms from your garden or borrow a few from another arrangement, and place them in a diminutive vase to create an instantly charming arrangement… darling and done!

Be creative and think outside the box for small vessels that you own and can use as miniature vases. A clever way to decorate a serving platter of nibbles is to place a silver baby cup, or a glass (above) or porcelain egg cup filled with a few flowers.

A silver baby cup makes the sweetest little vase for flowers! Lilacs from the garden adorn my daughter Caroline’s monogrammed baby cup in the living room at Fox Hall. Placing a small, round, silver tray underneath my arrangements serves to enhance the floral appearance.

Oh! Remember to anchor your little arrangement on a tray of hors d'oeuvres with a tiny ball of “poster-board clay” so that it will not topple or fall off!

Mummy’s silver cigarette holder is garnished with a few flowers and appears to be a miniature champagne bucket!

From platters of delectable nibbles, to bedside tables, coffee tables, and in powder rooms, these are perfect places for cheerful little bouquets. More examples can be found in my book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, available at Scully & Scully.

XX,

Holly

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A clever way to seat your guests at a large party!

It was a memorable day in May on our verandah at Fox Hall when 50 ladies attended a luncheon in honor of Lady Carnarvon of Highclere Castle (aka Downton Abbey). As the hostess of the event, I chose to sit on one side in the center of the table, with Lady Carnarvon seated across from me. Having your guest of honor seated in the center, it allows them to engage with even more guests than if they are seated at one end. When I stood up to propose a toast, it enabled guests to hear me on my right and left, versus having to shout from one end of the endlessly long table! Photo credit: Deb Key

With Easter upon us, and splendid spring galas approaching and celebratory weddings ahead, I was inspired to discuss two seating options for large gatherings.  

A clever seating arrangement, one I had not heard of before, is “New York seating.”  My precious friend in Arizona, who has always been a terrific cheerleader for my newsletter, recently reached out to share this seating technique with me! In essence, unlike alternating boy-girl seating, New York seating has a guest seated with their spouse on one side of them, and someone of the same gender on the other side. 

For example:

I would have Stuart on one side, and a lady guest whom I may not know, on my other side. Essentially, it is a lady, with her husband on one side, and another lady on her other side… on and on. 

At a wedding, a large gathering, and especially, at a long table, every hostess strives to create a seating plan that will graciously mix people together.  New York seating gives someone from their own gender to talk to on one side, and one’s spouse on the other side. My friend said, with a wink, “It prevents the business tycoon from being stuck between two women who may wish to talk about more feminine topics like children or fashion! And for shy guests, it creates a comfort zone. It doesn’t work with all numbers, but when it does, it is like magic!” 

The table was set for a ladies' luncheon, but the next time I host a dinner for mixed couples, on a similarly long table, I will try the New York seating arrangement!

Another seating example is to have the host and hostess sit across from one another in the center of the table, versus at either end of the table.  This way, they both have the opportunity to engage with more of their guests, either on their right and left, or across the table as well. And, the amusing aspect of this seating arrangement?  It allows the couples to “play footsie” with one another.
XX,

Holly

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Place Cards: A “no-no” for a dinner guest!

On top, are examples of place card holders that I have collected through the years, along with two place settings at elegant dinner parties that I have attended.

We all know how much effort it takes to host a memorable, seated dinner party for our guests!  One aspect that takes time and considerable thought is the seating placement.  A place card (or seating card) tells a guest where they will be seated at the table. Guests tend to appreciate place cards because they serve to confirm that the host cares about creating an atmosphere for delightful and engaging conversation between their guests. They also serve to eliminate that awkward dance of “where should I sit?” out of the equation!  With that in mind, I received this from a darling subscriber:

“I was recently at a beautiful dinner party where the hostess no doubt had made every effort to thoughtfully prepare her seating plan.  I was aghast to see a couple of guests rearranging the place cards to seat themselves in a different location than where the hostess had planned for them.  REALLY??? Have you ever had this happen?  The hostess was quietly gracious but I’m sure she was filing this behavior away for future reference… can you spell, faux pas?!!”

Oh, dear! Changing the placement of a place card is a BIG no-no for a guest!  I have indeed witnessed this at larger functions, i.e., weddings. 

 As a guest, remember that a dinner invitation is a gift to you from the host, and thus, your seating placement is not something to be tossed aside at will. Showing gratitude for being invited, and respect for an appointed seat at the table, is something to be revered… especially if you wish to be invited back!   

If there is not a place card present, the host may direct a guest to their seat, or the guests may choose where they wish to be seated. 

Outside of our family, place cards are on our table for dinner parties, but not necessarily for parties of six or less. Why not for six?  “Six seats itself,” is a saying that my precious English friend shared with me. It translates to three couples who can easily seat themselves to be equally integrated with their seating placement, alternating boy & girl!

Six option 1:  The host and hostess are seated at either end of the table,  while one couple is seated on either side of the table, either together as a couple, or mixed.  

Six option 2: Three guests face one another in the center of a long table. For example, two lady guests with the host in between on one side, and two gentlemen guests with the hostess in between.

Scully & Scully have a charming selection of place card holders and kindly photographed my favorite one. While it would normally be placed above the place setting, it is on top of the handsome snaffle bit plate for a closer look!

Grandmillenial tips:

Place cards need to be legible! I use gold ink, black ink, and even pink ink, go figure!

For a formal dinner, black or gold ink is used, and a title (Ambassador, General, etc.)  may be included with the first and last name. 

For an informal dinner, using just the first name is acceptable.  

A place card may be displayed in a place card holder, or it may also be arranged above the dinner plate, centered on the place setting, or placed above the forks. 

A folded (tented) place card does not require a holder. 

For business functions, a tented card may be larger than a regular place card, and it may have the person's name printed on both sides so that others sitting at the table can also see whom they are addressing at the meeting.

The paper color and design are the same for both the place card, the menu card, and also, the table card (indicating the table number) for larger functions.

At a seated function, especially with more than one table, when a guest does not show up, the entire place setting and chair may be requested to be removed by the serving staff. Then, the other guests can scoot closer together without having an empty gap in the table seating… which is much more conducive to imparting lively conversation!

It has been a delight to collect various place card holders to complement various themes, celebrations, and seasons.  What are some of your favorites? 

XX
Holly

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Photo "No-No's!" Part II

Every time I enter The Breakers Hotel in Palm Beach, I am visually captivated by the grand floral arrangement in the front hall. I adore photography and instantly want to capture their ever-evolving enchanting arrangement! It is always thoughtful and polite to ask permission first.

Oh, my gracious!  I received so many enthusiastic, positive responses to my last letter about “photo no-no’s.”  I thought you might enjoy reading a few, which touch on other aspects of privacy in reference to photography: 

  • “Oh yes, it is one of those boundaries, alas, which is becoming ever more porous.”

  • “I had someone visit once and I never saw him take any photos. A few days later, I saw several photographs of my place on his Instagram page. I felt so violated!”

The comment below is worthy of your consideration for those posting photographs on social media. 

  • “Another detail of which I wish people would be mindful of is posting on social media and then, tagging the location! I’m happy for people to take family photos while visiting us at our summer home. They can even use the photographs on their Christmas cards, etc., but please, leave the location of my “empty-for-8-months” vacation home off of social media posts!”

  • “I hosted a party at my two-story home and was rather surprised when I discovered that a few guests helped themselves to the upstairs level, which they knew were the private bedrooms. I wonder if they took photographs while upstairs?”

As enticing as a staircase or a “hall to somewhere” is, without an invitation from the host to visit those areas, they should be considered private and off-limits!  Do you agree?  

Another VERY important no-no: never photograph children, whom you don’t know, without asking permission first! This just happened to me at a Palm Beach hotel pool. A female guest seated near the pool started taking several pictures of my adorable little granddaughter who was in the pool. Yes, it is flattering to know someone appreciates how darling your child is, but it is also very disconcerting not knowing who she was, why she was taking pictures of my granddaughter… and how they would be used. 

Our darling daughter and daughter-in-law, in our living room at Fox Hall, have champagne in hand at a private, family celebratory moment. Mind you, I did ask for their permission to use it!

Photo credit : Paola Kaoud

In a previous letter, I wrote about not having a drink in your hand when “posing” for a photo at a party or business function. So, with that in mind, I will conclude with remarks sent to me from a southern subscriber. I adore her sense of humor!

  • “Great article! Also, I never want to be photographed with a drink in my hand, unless it is a special celebratory occasion where everyone is offering “cheers” with a beautiful champagne flute. My southern roots will not allow it! It’s just like a woman drinking a beer straight out of a bottle… someone, get me the smelling salts! Just one of my pet peeves, like badly chipped nail polish in public… more smelling salts, please!

My appreciation to you for your thoughtful comments, and also for inspiring me with additional topic ideas!

XX
Holly

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A “photo no-no!”

The quintessential guide to classic interior design, elegant entertaining & a genteel lifestyle.

(formerly Mummy's Monday Manners)

For our son’s 40th birthday party, we had our favorite bagpiper to commence the evening and over 100 guests came to celebrate! We invited his Rollins College friends to gather by the bagpiper for a photograph together. (Our son, Stuart III, is the fourth gentleman down the steps, and our daughter, Caroline, is at the bottom of the steps!)

Isn’t it divine to be able to visit and party with friends in their homes again after the endlessly long covid hiatus?  So many people have refreshed their interiors, which in turn, serves to enchant newly invited guests. In this world of just about “anything and everything” being captured on cell phone cameras, I wanted to shed light on an important forbidden faux pas for a guest.  It is a BIG no-no to go around someone’s house and photograph different aspects of their interiors. 

Interiors are private. Taking the liberty to snap a few photos while inside someone’s house for your own pleasure, is tantamount to photographing someone nude when no one is looking!  You may capture something pretty, but in a civilized society, it’s not yours to capture.

Consider that one’s interiors are exclusive and should remain privy to the owners.  A photograph becomes a permanent record, one that the owner of the house no longer has control of.  From hidden security cameras, art, and antiques, there are facets of a house that one may wish not to share, or may choose to present in a more appropriate or proper manner.  

Yes, there are indeed occasions when a guest can photograph inside a home.  I have happily witnessed guests capturing memorable videos of the bagpiper we have playing to commence a celebratory party, or apres fireworks on the terrace. Guests may wish to photograph one another too.  And yes, the background of the interiors are in the photograph. The difference is that you are not attempting to solely photograph interior rooms and the details (like a spy) without the consent of the owner. 

But, if you DO wish to photograph something in particular, present your wish with an open-ended question: “Someday, I would love to take a few photographs of this stunning room.”  Being tactful will enable the owner to either ignore or grant the request.

A few years ago, I posed this question to a friend in Palm Beach upon seeing her spectacular “seashell crown-molding” in a study.  Guess what?  She called me two weeks later and said she had just sold her house, and if I wanted to photograph it, I had a week to get down there.  I most certainly did… and that was the beginning of my Pearls of Palm Beach book! 

How divine and appropriate is this bespoke shell crown molding which is in a John Volk designed house in Palm Beach, which I featured as a chapter in my Palm Beach book?

Grandmillennial Tip:

If you take photographs in someone’s house, reassure them that you will not share any of them on social media, or at least not without their prior approval. 

How grateful I am that so many of my cherished friends have allowed me to photograph their stunning, family homes for inclusion into my two interior design books. Their trust alone is beyond pure gold, and means the world to me! 


XX
Holly

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My favorite rooms at Kips Bay Showhouse, Palm Beach!

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While I was standing in this charming, pink, green, and yellow sun-terrace, cleverly designed by Amanda Reynal Interiors, someone took my photo and said that I matched the room! Look how the macarons, the exquisitely embroidered napkins, the floral arrangement, and the coffee table were joyfully color-coordinated in a quintessential Palm Beach palette of pastels. It is, in Amanda’s words, “The perfect private oasis.” I fully agree!

Have you attended the fifth Kips Bay Showhouse in the historic district of West Palm Beach yet?  Having participated in three prestigious Showhouses as a designer, I can fully appreciate the time, effort, and financial investment each designer expends on their appointed room.  How delightful it was to tour and enjoy every detail… this time, as a visitor! 

A “Kips Bay Showhouse” has a well-earned reputation of featuring the pinnacle of architects and designers. The NYC and Palm Beach Showhouses have raised over $25 million for The Kips Bay Boys & Girls Clubs in both NYC and Palm Beach locations, which has benefited over 21,000 youths. The creativity and commitment of notable designers featured in this Showhouse richly contributes to this stellar charity, while also giving the visitors inspirational design ideas! 

The tailored Sunroom, created by Paloma Contreras Design, Houston, Texas, is a happy and timeless vision of Florida: soft greens and whites, touches of rattan, handsomely trimmed curtains and valances, and glazed linen on the upholstery. The white bespoke treillage on the walls and ceiling add brilliantly to the rich dimension of this room!

Attractive wall upholstery in beige and green striped linen encompasses the walls, ceiling, and also, the curtains, all serving to create a quiet respite. The headboard and box spring are upholstered in a complementary fabric. The handsome appliquéd bed linens enhance the tester bed. This well-appointed guest bedroom, designed by Sarah Bartholomew Design, LLC., is a joy to visit!

“In the Pink: A Poolside Paradise” was cleverly designed by Janie Molster Designs Richmond, Virginia. The Pool Deck, Pavilion, and Pergola have been graced with her darling pink accents. It is the most joyful space. With all that pink… you know I lingered here! Janie and I attended the same girl’s school in Richmond and I adore her work. It was truly a delight to see how she created the perfect place to host poolside parties all year long in Palm Beach.

In this historic house, I was thrilled to see my favorite kitchen/bath/bar designer, Jim Dove’s space, “The Monkey Bar!” The DeGournay vividly colored wallpaper, “Deco Monkeys,” enhances the backlight stone bar. It is where modern meets playful glamour. Jim was inspired by NYC’s renowned Monkey Bar which opened in the 1930s in the Elysee Hotel. His space is handsomely sophisticated, and features just the right touch of whimsy!

The public is invited to tour the Palm Beach Kips Bay Showhouse from March 5- April 3. Tickets are $40.00.  

I am sharing even more videos and photographs of the Showhouse spaces on my Instagram, and hope you will take a peek! 


XX
Holly

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How to repurpose your silver pieces!

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(formerly Mummy's Monday Manners)

I added some ice to the bottom of my English,1880 silver syphon, and because of its slender size, I could place it on a side table in our Palm Beach living room. It is an elegant accessory that can be used to chill a bottle of wine or even a bottle of sparkling water, or… you name it!

My parents moved 33 times during my father’s career! Mummy taught me how to repurpose some of their silver pieces, which she did brilliantly, out of necessity. I hope to inspire you to not only use your silver, but to also consider using your pieces in a diverse, unique way.

Recently, I purchased an English silver “biscuit box,” c. 1975. It is the perfect size to store cookies for grandchildren or biscuits for a puppy. When I was preparing for an impromptu cocktail party at “Fox Worth,” our apartment in Palm Beach, I realized that I needed a more diminutive-sized ice bucket than what I had because our Louis XVI side table, where we serve champagne and drinks, has limited surface space. Suddenly, I spied the biscuit box in the kitchen and immediately repurposed it into an ice bucket. It could not have been any more perfect; even the hinged lid helps to keep the ice inside from melting! It was a seamless transition from cookies to ice cubes and has served me well for our Palm Beach parties. I did not have an ice scoop, so I opted to repurpose an antique silver tomato serving spoon, with a shell handle, to serve ice from the biscuit box. I hope to inspire you to think outside of the box!

The silver syphon, shown in the photograph above with a wine bottle, is used here as a flower vase. The English biscuit box is filled with ice, and the Sheffield basket holds See’s chocolates, but I also use it to serve my biscuits at dinner. Silver pieces from: Corbell Silver .

Here are 14 of my ideas for “repurposing silver accessories”:

  1. A silver champagne cooler can be transformed brilliantly into a graceful flower vase.

  2. A silver baby cup can serve as an hors d’oeuvres toothpick holder or a small flower vase.

  3. A small silver cream pitcher is perfect for bedside flowers, or to serve warm syrup for pancakes.

  4. A silver canaster can be used for any spice, powdered sugar, and more.

  5. A silver tray, when placed under a floral arrangement, can “frame and enhance” the flowers, and it will serve to catch any pollen or falling blossoms.

  6. Silver chargers are a splendid size to pass hors d’oeuvres.

  7. Silver napkin rings can be filled with greenery to garnish a serving platter of prepared food.

  8. A silver cigarette holder can be used to serve candies or toothpicks/skewers.

  9. A silver punchbowl can be used to serve biscuits for a large party.

  10. A silver mint julep cup can hold make-up brushes or q-tips.

  11. A silver coaster is a perfect size to place some chocolates by your guest’s bedside.

  12. A silver baby rattle works brilliantly as a carving knife rest.

  13. A silver basket can be used for biscuits, chocolates, cookies, bread, crackers, nuts, and petit fours.

  14. A silver picture frame can be transformed into a standing mirror by slipping in a piece of “mirrored glass” in the place of a photograph.

Do tell!  How do you repurpose some of your silver pieces?  I will add your ideas to my silver repertoire and share them with you, too!

Mummy’s silver umbrella was used back in the 60s as a chic cigarette holder for her bridge parties. I transformed it into a toothpick holder, to go alongside hors d'oeuvres… much more chic than smoking!

XX
Holly

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The protocol for a graduation invitation and an announcement!

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(formerly Mummy's Monday Manners)

Graduation time is drawing near! Some ideas for gifts that I have found to be adored by young lady graduates: college graduates appreciate an elegant black handbag for interviews, and graduates of any age will cherish a lovely piece of jewelry, an engraved frame to hold a sweet memory, or a porcelain Herend box to place by their bedside for earrings or even, as a pretty decorative piece on a coffee table!

It is always a delight to read your questions and responses to my “Secrets to Lovely Living!”  Just recently,  I was asked about the protocol for a “graduation announcement versus an invitation,” hence my topic du jour! 

A graduation invitation is different from a graduation announcement.  The former is requesting your attendance at the actual ceremony, and the latter is acknowledging your academic accomplishment…cheers to graduating! 

A Graduation Invitation: 

If you receive a graduation invitation, it is requesting your physical attendance at the graduation commencement. It is typically mailed six weeks prior to the graduation date, or a save-the-date card can be sent up to three months ahead. This advance notice is helpful for out-of-town guests to make their travel arrangements. 

Do not take offense if you did not receive an invitation. Due to the constraint of limited school seating, invitations are mainly intended for immediate family and close relatives.

Respond to the R.s.v.p. as soon as possible, because tickets are limited. If you cannot attend, the graduate can then invite another close family member.   

Graduation invitations are similar to wedding invitations.  If the school provides you with the invitation, along with two envelopes, write the address on the outer envelope, using as few abbreviations as possible, i.e., Street, Avenue, Connecticut.  The inner envelope only states the guest’s name: Mr. and Mrs. R. Stuart Holden, Jr. or, for a relative, simply, Uncle Herb. Use black ink, although blue ink is acceptable too. 

A Graduation Announcement:

Since an announcement is not an invitation to attend the commencement, the announcement is sent after the actual graduation ceremony has taken place!  They can be mailed the day after, or up to two weeks, after the ceremony.  A graduation announcement does not include an invitation to a party because the party will have already taken place after the ceremony. 

Graduation Party:

If you are hosting a graduation party, then you can invite whomever you wish.  The sky's the limit! Party invitations should be mailed separately, and not inserted into the graduation invitation. It is a thoughtful idea to give a “start and end time” so that the graduate and their friends can also plan to attend other parties. 

Graduation Gifts:

If you receive a graduation announcement, you are not obligated to send a gift.  Of course, the graduate would appreciate your kind acknowledgment with either a congratulatory note or… better yet, a gift!  

If you receive an invitation to the graduation ceremony, a gift is expected.  Either send a gift and request that it be delivered near or on the graduation date, or give your gift to the graduate on the day of the commencement. 

It is always nice to ask the parent’s advice on what to give. Consider ordering something that can be engraved with their name, or school, and a date, or give something they can use after graduation for their apartment/house. Lovely stationery that can be used for thank you notes, or an exceptional pen, is another idea!  Sending flowers to the graduate on the day of the graduation is also thoughtful. A check or gift certificate is appropriate too. 

Gentlemen graduates may enjoy having a handsome frame engraved with their initials or school, a pair of engraved cufflinks, a leather credit card holder, or a business cardholder.

Forbidden Faux Pas

No-no: To send an announcement to anyone who has never met the graduate.

What is done:  The announcement should be sent to people the graduate knows, not just the parent's friends or Christmas card list.  Rule of thumb: whomever receives an announcement should be able to recognize the graduate and vice versa!

No-no: To have a gift registry included on the invitation.

What is done: The guest will inquire if you have a registry or a particular store that you adore. 

No-no: For the graduate to only talk to their friends at their graduation party. 

What is done: The graduate should make an effort to talk to all of the guests attending their ceremony and party. 

No-no: To send an email thank you note for graduation gifts.  

What is done: A hand-written thank-you note is required for any graduation gift received, preferably within 48 hours, but up to two weeks, after receiving the gift.

And, don’t forget to pop a cork of champagne for the accomplished graduate!

XX
Holly

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A gift you give yourself… hiring help to serve at your party!

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On a warm summer's evening, dining on our veranda at Fox Hall c. 1803, is simply magical!

Stuart and I adore entertaining. Friends are a gift you give yourself! Our goal is to have a jovial time while catching up with our darling friends by sharing stories and laughing together over dinner. I truly savor the preparation, from arranging the flowers (either from our garden or store-bought), to deciding the menu, setting the table, and cooking. To me, while as time-consuming as it is to cook, it is my way of showing my love to our precious friends and family. I am most grateful to be able to do this. That being said, Stuart contributes by placing the appropriate glasses on the table and being in charge of the wine and libations for the event. He always excels at showing “his love” with this task…a “jolly time” is guaranteed!

True confession: serving and cleaning up is something that I do not enjoy! When we host an intimate party of six or more, Stuart and I have always agreed that it makes our evening more enjoyable to have help to serve and clean up. This is a gift to ourselves! We are able to relax after all of our preparations and enjoy the evening. Delightfully, we can “be in the moment” and give our full attention to our guests. We are most grateful to be able to have help. It was a decision we made the moment we could afford it, and to you, dear grandmillennials, consider doing this too for your parties.

For Alexandra’s 40th birthday dinner party ( wait, our daughter can’t be that old!), she invited her dear friends from her Miss Porter's School days. Sweet photographs of the girls back in school were arranged on the sideboard, and I placed a wine decanter, filled with flowers, at each place setting as a gift for them to take home. I still consider them as my “other” daughters!

A seasoned piece of advice, which I have learned through experience, (and recently, forgot to do!) is to take the time to discuss with the person/people serving you for the first time, what you expect and how you wish them to serve.  Showing them by example, before the party, is a prudent and thoughtful way to have an understanding between you and your server; you will both know what to expect! 

My “shortlist” to discuss with a new server is:

  • Plates and other serving dishes are served on the left side of the guests. In America, the rule of thumb is to "serve on the left."

  • Plates are cleared from the table on the right side of the guests. I just remember the two R's: “Remove on the Right!"

  • Glasses are refilled on the right because their placement on the table is on the right.

(On a side note, in England, in private houses, plates are served and cleared only on the left side of the guest.)

Forbidden Faux Pas

No-No: To stack plates when clearing the table.  Plates should never be stacked or scraped clean anywhere near the dining table.

What is done: Plates are cleared from the table, two at a time, three at most.  They are cleaned in the kitchen, and preferably not within earshot of the guests.  

No-No: To leave any remaining plates on the table when dessert is served.

What is done: When all of the courses have been served and the remaining plates, salt and pepper, serving pieces, chargers, and flatware (other than the dessert flatware) are all cleared from the table, then dessert (referred to as "pudding” in England) is served.  Glasses remain on the table until the dinner is over and guests move to another room.

Oh, the final part of the gift? Going happily to bed knowing the dishes are clean, put away, and the trash is out. Sweet dreams assured! 

XX
Holly

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When I receive NYSD in my inbox, perusing through it is always such a treat. Finding out what is going on in splendid venues, seeing friends, colleagues and clientele, learning about what is happening in New York City and Palm Beach, complemented with delicious writing and party photographs, is a moment to indulge in, and savor!

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The social Kiss-Kiss! Which cheek gets the first air kiss?

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Psyche Revived by Cupid’s Kiss, is the romantic marble sculpture by Italian artist, Antonio Canova, 1787.

With Valentine’s Day in the air, let’s talk about the “Kiss-Kiss!”

Sweet Lalique Lovebirds are kissing on Mottahedeh Pink Lace china… a darling Valentine decoration for your table!

Yes, kissing on the lips is for lovers!  But, the tradition of the “kiss on the cheeks” is a recognized form of endearment between friends, family, and occasionally, business colleagues.  Touching cheeks and kissing in the air is known as the “social kiss” or the “air kiss.”  It is one step above a handshake in terms of devotion, friendship, love, and gratitude.  It is a prevalent social practice for a greeting, and a farewell, in many countries such as the USA and Europe.  In France, this common practice is referred to as “Faire la bise.”

With the continued challenges of Covid, be aware and respectful of how others wish to greet you in reference to the social kiss.  Note their body language and also, if they keep their mask on.  Take your cue from the other person and be respectful of their space and comfort zone. 

The kiss sound comes from your lips in the air, and not a “mu-wah '' voice sound, right?   But, if you are practicing safe distancing, I think that the gesture of hands up while giving a “mock air kiss-kiss” from afar, along with the  “mu-wah mu-wah” voice sound, is a joyful and respectful substitute for a social kiss greeting! 

The general guidelines for a social kiss are:

  • A social kiss is usually from right cheek to right cheek. But sometimes, depending on the culture and tradition of a country or region, it is from the left cheek to the left cheek. If you’re in another country, take the cue from them… and, good luck with that!

  • Your lips never touch the other person’s cheek.

  • Your cheek does not need to touch the other person's cheek; it’s your choice.

  • Ladies, if you wear lipstick, just be careful not to leave it on the other person’s cheek!

  • A gentleman properly waits for a lady to extend her hand first for a handshake. For the social kiss, he should also wait for a lady to be the first to lean forward, which is the cue that it is appropriate for a social kiss.

  • In some countries, one, up to three social kisses are common. My advice is to go with the flow and just be prepared “to do the dance” for that surprise third, or even fourth kiss!

A kiss is the first language of love that we understand! Holding and kissing the newborn twins my daughter delivered in England is a cherished memory.

Happy Valentine’s Day and kiss-kiss to you all! 

XX
Holly

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When I receive NYSD in my inbox, perusing through it is always such a treat. Finding out what is going on in splendid venues, seeing friends, colleagues and clientele, learning about what is happening in New York City and Palm Beach, complemented with delicious writing and party photographs, is a moment to indulge in, and savor!

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Knock-out knobs and pulls: Jewelry for your cabinets!

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Brass fox knobs and snaffle-bit door pulls enhance the Butler’s Pantry cabinets at my home, Fox Hall. They reflect my beloved theme of foxes and horses!

Think twice when purchasing knobs and pulls for your cabinet doors and drawers!  While pretty earrings can complement an elegant outfit for a sought-after “tailored composition,” decorative knobs and pulls can be the “darling detail” for your cabinets, and serve to create a well-appointed decorative touch. Whether the interior space is grand or petite, formal or informal, what you choose to adorn your cabinets with is worthy of your time and attention. Cabinets can be prime real estate to feature a touch of your personality into a room. 

The knob design, and finish you choose, can either be a theme-inspired element, a whimsical element or simply a quiet enhancement to a cabinet, while intrinsically contributing to the overall design of a room.  I adore looking at one’s choice of hardware, as it can transform a space to become uniquely individual!  

Drawer knobs and pulls are available to purchase from a myriad of places.  While I have many “to the trade” options available as a designer, there are, now more than ever, many sources readily available and easily accessible via the internet.  Even Etsy offers some darling options!  Finding just the right style, size, design, and color of “jewelry for your cabinets” can be captivating, amusing, and joyful, once you commence the search with a theme in mind.  

There is a whimsical Chinoiserie theme at Petite Fox II, our newest abode in Palm Beach! The dining room features a bespoke pagoda. And, for the kitchen, I chose wallpaper with pink & blue Chinese dragons and foo dogs. As I searched for the cabinet hardware, I discovered brass “dragon” pull handles on Etsy, of all places. I was intrigued, so I ordered a sample. That was it! Soon, they clung to the upper cabinet doors in our kitchen. Because of their spine, pointy tail, and pokey-sharp tongue, these dragons tend to “bite” if you lean against or brush past them. So, I chose a different style pull, with a lower profile, to dress the lower cabinets.

Grandmillennial Tip:

The finish you choose for your cabinet jewelry should be all the same- either brass, nichol, chrome, etc.  This is applicable to the hinges too if they are visible. 

The “egg” shape pull is the most classic shape of all. I have brass egg shape knobs throughout my kitchen (on the doors and drawers) at Fox Hall, c.1803.

These handsome glass egg-shaped faucet handles at the WATERWORKS showroom in Bostoncaptured my attention for a guest bathroom for a client. I would recommend carrying out the same egg shape and finish for the cabinet hardware too. The glass adds a touch of glamour. Do you agree?

While drawer pulls are traditionally centered, a second pull (side by side)  may be used if the drawer is over 20” wide, depending on the size of the pull. Or, just use one pull, but longer in size than the ones on the smaller drawers. 

A knob can be placed on the leading edge anywhere from 1” from the far bottom corner of the cabinet door, up several inches from the corner, or even in the absolute center of the door. Experiment with various placements before actually drilling the hole to attach them! 

Consider using two different designs of knobs for cabinets in the same room. While each has a distinctive design and shape, they should strive to be complementary in theme and have the same finish.  

My daughter, Caroline, discovered four orange enamel knobs with brass fox heads at an Anthropologie store. Even though they were discontinued, she knew that somehow I would find a way to use just four of them! And I did… on the glass doors in another section of the Butler’s Pantry at Fox Hall.

XX
Holly

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Have you ever wanted a dress or blouse that is easy to wear and extremely flattering, while also being timelessly chic?  Jude Connally Zimmerman, the brilliance behind the Jude Connally collection of dresses, empowers women to feel their best from the outside in.  She has a talent for style, color, and pattern… and incorporating pink!  Jude is exceptionally gracious and her following is too. How delightful to choose a dress, slip it on, and feel put together without any effort!  She combines textile innovations in activewear with ready-to-wear design and style, so the fabric travels exceptionally well.  I truly adore wearing her designs any time of day, and in any season!

Have you ever wanted a dress or blouse that is easy to wear and extremely flattering, while also being timelessly chic? Jude Connally Zimmerman, the brilliance behind the Jude Connally collection of dresses, empowers women to feel their best from the outside in. She has a talent for style, color, and pattern… and incorporating pink! Jude is exceptionally gracious and her following is too. How delightful to choose a dress, slip it on, and feel put together without any effort! She combines textile innovations in activewear with ready-to-wear design and style, so the fabric travels exceptionally well. I truly adore wearing her designs any time of day, and in any season!

Jude Maguire is passionate about relaxed elegance! She has created a collection of patterns and colors, which all tie in together, for both wallpaper and linens. Her company, Main and Market, offers locally sourced clay-coated wallpaper, sustainable hand-woven sisal grasscloth wall coverings, and bio-degradable paper weaves, along with textiles that are all Belgian linen and Irish linen, all of which are printed in New England.

When I receive NYSD in my inbox, perusing through it is always such a treat. Finding out what is going on in splendid venues, seeing friends, colleagues and clientele, learning about what is happening in New York City and Palm Beach, complemented with delicious writing and party photographs, is a moment to indulge in, and savor!

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What decorative trim is elegantly understated and timeless?

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What decorative trim is elegantly understated and timeless?

A simple, quietly understated 1” wide trim embellishes a dust ruffle, created with a Bob Collins classic chintz fabric, in Palm Beach.

What decorative trim is timeless, tailored, and exceptionally cost-effective?  It can be used to enhance curtains and valances, adorn upholstery, pillows, dust ruffles, and even grace your clothes, hair bands, hats, shoes, and ponytails?  Now, that’s a notable roster for ONE kind of trim, wouldn’t you agree?  Any ideas of which trim I am referring to?

It is a grosgrain ribbon!  (Pronounced: GROW-grain)

Grosgrain is a very versatile ribbon and has a distinctive ribbed appearance that goes across the ribbon, which enhances its durability.  Its textured parallel ridges have a matte finish.  Therefore it is not flashy or shiny, and is more durable than satin or silk ribbons. 

Grosgrain, as early as the 17th century, referred to a garment fabric that was black and durable.  In the 1920s “grosgrain ribbon” was introduced, and now, there are a multitude of colors and printed designs available.  I like to think of grosgrain ribbon as having a “distinguished appearance,’ which is one reason it continues to embellish evening wear too, like the bow on a gentleman’s formal black evening pumps.

And, how about these golden grosgrain earrings!!

Consider applying a 1” to 2” wide grosgrain ribbon along the leading edge and across the bottom hemline of your curtain panels. Choose a complementary color to the fabric design or room scheme… or simply choose a neutral color, like white.

These curtain pull panels have 1 ½” white grosgrain ribbon applied one inch off the leading edge of both panels.

I specify a grosgrain ribbon trim to be sewn about ½” to 1 ½” off the leading edges on a curtain panel. How you place it depends on the pattern of the fabric, the height of the room, the width of the curtains, and the formality of the design scheme. So, it is a matter of deciding what proportionately works well overall in reference to the placement, size, and color of the ribbon. Two or more smaller ribbons can be used too. Have fun, be clever and think outside of the box when designing with grosgrain ribbon!

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Holly

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I have used Samuel & Sons grosgrain ribbons for years for my clients. Grosgrain ribbon can also be easily obtained on the internet too, like this roll of 2” white ribbon.

My Palm Beach Secrets!

The next time you visit Palm Beach, a marvelous place to have lunch outside on the ocean’s edge is The Four Seasons Hotel, about six miles by car from Worth Avenue. The service and food is delightful. It is well worth the drive… and well-behaved dogs are allowed!

GIVEAWAY! 

Last week I featured the very talented Mara Sfara. She has been gracious enough to offer this lovely painting exclusively to my SLL subscribers and social media followers! The painting, Three Great White Egrets, is oil on linen and valued at $4,200. Click the button below to enter! We will be choosing our winner at random on Valentine's Day, 2/14/22. The winner will be announced shortly thereafter, once confirmed. Best of luck!

My “secret” color combination for kitchens!

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My “secret” color combination for kitchens!

A blue & white kitchen will stand the test of time! Photo Credit: Scheffer Interiors via Instagram.

What is my “secret” color combination for a charming, timeless, and tailored kitchen?  It’s a “blue & white” color scheme!  This traditional color combination has been around for centuries, so maybe it does not qualify as “my secret,” but more of my “tried and true'' color combination for a kitchen… and for other rooms too, for that matter!

Mummy convinced me to consider a blue & white scheme for the kitchen in my first “big-girl” house.  I realize now that I did not truly appreciate her sage guidance at age 21… but, once again, her advice was merited!  She drew from her well-earned experience: she encountered several rather unique interiors, whilst moving our family over 33 times internationally!  Fortunately, I listened to her and adopted her blue & white suggestion for almost all of our houses.  

The blue & white scheme also works well with yellows, greens, reds, and even pink accents.  Almost any other happy color will compliment a blue & white room.  

To me, the blue & white theme utilized in kitchens, and other interior spaces, adds an air of contentment and joy, similar to a bright blue sky adorned with enchanting, puffy white clouds… a joyful, welcomed sight!  Even the blue & white images of interiors that I share on my Instagram garner enthusiastic likes and views from my followers.

This is our little sitting nook in the blue & white kitchen at Fox Hall. I commissioned an artist to paint our son, Stuart III, and requested that the color of his sweaters be a soft blue, knowing that it would always work well with the blue & white colors in our kitchen!

There is a universal appeal and charm of a blue & white color palette.  Perhaps, one reason it remains an enduring color combination is because of its long history and staying power.  It originated on pottery in China in the Tang dynasty 618-906.  In the Yuan dynasty 1279-1368, the cobalt blue used on pottery and porcelains became even more vibrant.  Blue & white porcelains arrived in Europe in the 16th century.  In the 1850s, the British were simply charmed by the appeal of a blue & white scheme, which became quite fashionable.  (And, of course, it served to brighten up their dark Victorian interiors!)  Impressionist artists, such as Auguste Renoir, sprinkled blue & white porcelains into their works of art.  The universal appeal and charm of blue & white in rooms, or on porcelains, continues and is a traditional, not trendy, choice. 

From various hues of blue-painted kitchen cabinets to blue & white wallpaper, one just cannot go wrong with this choice! So, pass along this advice to a bride, a first-home owner, or someone designing a resort house. From my experience, it will serve them well.

Main and Market offers blue & white wall coverings with a fresh aesthetic to the designs.

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Holly

P.S. Please be a dear…share this with a friend and inspire them to subscribe!  Take a peek at the "LOVELY GIVEAWAY" below, and view our splendid sponsors too! 

GIVEAWAY! 

Last week I featured the very talented Mara Sfara. She has been gracious enough to offer this lovely painting exclusively to my SLL subscribers and social media followers! The painting, Three Great White Egrets, is oil on linen and valued at $4,200. Click the button below to enter! We will be choosing our winner at random on Valentine's Day, 2/14/22. The winner will be announced shortly thereafter, once confirmed. Best of luck!

A lovely lucite sculpture can hop into your heart!

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A lovely lucite sculpture can hop into your heart!

An adorable lucite bunny is tickled pink to be under the “Three Great White Egrets.” Both pieces are by artist Mara Sfara.

There is nothing like commencing a new year with a hop and some sparkle!  I was on the hunt for a joyful little piece of art: a sculpture for a client in Palm Beach to perch upon a tellie room coffee table… and it had to be pink! 

When I choose art, my mantra and prerequisite is that “the artwork has to speak to my heart.”  So, I keep that in mind for my darling clients too. 

Luck would have it that I ran into Mara Sfara, a dear friend, fellow Garden Club of Hartford member, and a stunningly talented artist.  She has been featured in many art publications and notable shows.  Mara is not only an exceptionally fine artist on canvas, she also sculpts brilliantly.  So, I inquired, and yes!  She had the perfect piece: a pink, lucite bunny, with a few sparkles.  My client sparkles and adores bunnies.  Mission accomplished! 

Art conveys an individual's personality and interests, and can also enhance the overall visual aesthetic experience of an interior design scheme.  Mara says, “Artwork is about falling in love!”  Agreed.  She loves her subjects in order to create art that touches one's heart.  Animals, endangered species and human relationships, make her art sing. 

Mara’s pink bunny sang to me- his little bent ear is so very precious. (Oh, dear. This is what happens to designers when they find the perfect piece for a client; they are tempted to buy one for themselves too!)

Lucite has higher light refraction than glass.  I am attracted to the luminosity of lucite, yet did not know much about lucite sculpting.  I inquired and thought you may wish to know more as well.

1.) Mara sends her sculptures to a foundry to make small limited editions of each piece.  The foundry uses a process that is like bronze casting.  

2.) The type of lucite that she uses is extremely difficult to work with, as it requires a perfect pour for even coloration, no bubbles, and a perfect placement.  Therefore, it requires a highly skilled foundry to create work at this level. 

3.) None of the pieces are the same even if you use the same color pour.  Each lucite sculpture is different in size and shape.  The buffing is also a long process.

Her website explains the entire lucite process and shows other pieces of her artwork.

I have always had a penchant for zebras! The fine detail work is exceptional. There is eye contact with the zebra which speaks volumes, a kind of emotional attachment. This painting was featured in Fine Arts Connoisseur Magazine, editor Peter Trippi, and Art and Museums Magazine. Perhaps, someday, I’ll commission a pink zebra for Palm Beach!

Thank you, Mara! 

“Art is more about what’s in your heart and mind than what’s on your canvas.”

~Mara Sfara

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Holly

P.S. Next week we will be featuring a generous giveaway (from Mara herself) with the prize retailing for $4,200!   You won't want to miss this! Make sure to follow along on Instagram where the giveaway will be announced. 

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