Holly's Secret "Simple Strawberry Shortcake Recipe!"

Entertaining dear friends outside on the verandah at Fox Hall during summer evenings in New England is a savored treat for me. (The fun peacock dress: Ala von Auersperg!)

“Simple and summer go together like strawberries and cream.”

When my granddaughter Felicity graced us with a visit from Berlin, we embarked on one of our delightful culinary endeavors. We created our secret, signature strawberry shortcake—an all-American “slice of summer” classic—for our family dinner on the verandah at Fox Hall. 

What’s the simple secret? Bisquick in a box and a touch of Amaretto or almond extract! 

 The recipe for six:

1. Sliced Strawberries:

Slice 4 cups of vibrant strawberries, anoint them with ¼ cup Amaretto (substitute a touch of almond extract for a non-alcoholic version), dust them with ¼ cup sugar, and gently toss. We let them repose at room temperature, allowing their juices to meld exquisitely! 

2. Divinely Delicious Whipped Cream:

Felicity masterfully whipped 1½ cups heavy cream, blending in ¼ cup powdered sugar and 1 tablespoon Amaretto (or ½ teaspoon almond extract) for a subtle almond allure. Chill until ready to serve. 

3. Scrumptious Shortcakes: 

Blend 2⅓ cups Bisquick (NOT the reduced fat version), ¼ cup sugar, ½ cup milk, 3 tablespoons melted salted butter, and 1 teaspoon almond extract. Hand stir the batter. 

Felicity artfully spooned six mounds of the batter onto a baking sheet, their edges just touching, and baked at 425°F for 12-15 minutes until golden. (Alternatively, the batter can be spread into an 8x8 pan and then cut into six pieces, once baked.)

4. Elegant Assembly:

Felicity chose my Queen Victoria dessert plates, replete with butterflies and flowers, to complement the summer scenery. 

Halve each warm shortcake, layer it with yummy whipped cream and sliced strawberries, crown it with the biscuit top, and finish with another dollop of whipped cream and a cascade of berries, along with their syrup. For a pretty flourish, add a spring of fresh mint. 

Shortcakes are best when served warm. So either pop them in the oven during cocktail hour and then cover to keep them warm, or I will bake them just before sitting down to dinner, when I have someone serving in the kitchen to take them out. 

 Simple Strawberry Shortcake Recipe (Serves 6)

Shortcake:

•  2⅓ cups Bisquick Mix

•  ¼ cup granulated sugar

•  ½ cup whole milk

•  3 tablespoons melted salted butter

•  1 teaspoon almond extract


Bake at 425°F for 12-15 minutes until lightly golden.

NOTE: “Slightly underbaking” keeps them extra moist inside!

Sliced Strawberries:

•  4 cups fresh strawberries, sliced

•  ¼ cup Amaretto (or a small touch of almond extract)

•  ¼ cup granulated sugar

Whipped Cream:

•  1½ cups heavy whipping cream

•  ¼ cup powdered sugar

•  1 tablespoon Amaretto (or ½ teaspoon or more of almond extract, to taste)

Strawberry Shortcake is a decadent dessert that embodies summer’s finesse!
(Pink placemat courtesy of Flying Sheep Country.)

Cooking with grandchildren always creates a cherished moment for me, and it’s such a joy to create something together!  

We hope you will enjoy our VERY simple recipe this summer too! 

Xx

Holly

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Majestic Menu Cards: An Elegant Touch!

A long table on the verandah at Fox Hall was set for fifty for a ladies’ luncheon honoring Lady Carnarvon of Highclere Castle (aka Downton Abbey). I slipped each menu card within the napkin’s fold to keep it from blowing away from the outdoor gentle breeze.

Menu cards are a lovely touch, elevating any occasion and honoring a celebration! These cards serve a practical purpose: informing guests of the courses to come and also, as a subtle alert to potential food allergies.  Beyond function, they’re cherished keepsakes, especially when adorned with the event’s date, occasion, or a nod to a guest of honor.

Designing the Perfect Menu Card:

Traditionally, menu cards are printed vertically on high-quality stock, measuring approximately 4¼” x 5½” to 5” x 8”. Mine, custom-made on 120-pound white paper, feature a charming Fox Hall illustration centered at the top. Rounded edges—a European flourish—add aesthetic appeal. Black ink exudes classic formality, though gold or colored inks can harmonize with the event’s theme or table design. 

Menu Card Placement Options:

•  To the left of the forks 

•  On the butter plate (sans butter)

•  Atop the dinner plate or napkin

•  Upright in a menu card holder (mirroring a place card holder) placed above the dinner plate or butter plate. 


For large events, printing the menu within the program is a cost-effective, yet sophisticated choice, especially for charity events. 

Always include the date and year on menu cards to create a lasting memento of the celebration.

My husband, along with two dear friends, all April-born Aries, inspired this “Rambunctious Rams” birthday dinner party theme!

This cherished menu card recalls a memorable evening at Dr.and Mrs. Paul R.C. Sullivan’s stunning home, where I was seated beside Jerry Franklin, the former CEO of Connecticut Public Television. This evening serendipitously sparked our friendship, which led to creating a pilot TV episode (filmed in the same house!), which in turn, launched my PBS television series—a true keepsake!

 Creative Uses for Blank Menu Cards: 

Menu cards (sans menu details) can double as impromptu note cards for heartfelt thank-yous or personal messages. I adore their versatility and size! 

Forbidden Faux Pas:

As a courteous guest, inform your host of any food allergies well in advance. Nothing disrupts a hostess’s carefully planned event more than learning at the table that a guest is vegetarian or has food allergies! 

 Examples of two regal menu cards:

Xx 

Holly

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Summer House Guests!

Spot on, right?! This artwork, “Departure of a Weekend Guest,” is by the UK’s foremost  British cartoonist, Annie Tempest. 

Summertime is the perfect time to invite houseguests to stay with you! A dear friend asked me a few questions about having houseguests for Labor Day, and my responses turned into this letter!

How long should I invite a couple to stay? How many days and what time should they arrive AND depart?

The best plan clearly specifies what you and your spouse agree upon before you invite your guests.

It is always so awkward, but how do I tell my guests when to leave?

When you invite your guests, it is considerate to share an appointed time for arrival and departure, so they will know what to expect. Obviously, this is stated diplomatically! When inviting houseguests to stay in a country house in England, it is politely assumed the weekend is over after lunch on the final day, unless the hosts specify differently.

How shall I go about suggesting this?

"If convenient, please arrive around noon on Saturday to join us for lunch on the patio. We hope you can stay until around 2 pm on Sunday, until after we have lunch at the Yacht Club?” If you are uncomfortable suggesting a time for them to depart, remember that clarity makes it easier for all parties to know what to expect. Do not assume your guests will know. You can always expound: “We need to begin packing ourselves Sunday afternoon.” Or, “We have a commitment later on Sunday; I hope you don’t mind."

A few days in advance of their arrival, offer some suggestions of what activities are available to do and then ask them what they would like to do, and be flexible! They may have had an exhausting week of work and just want to sit by the pool. Rule of thumb: don’t overschedule! Guests like having the opportunity to sleep late, take a nap, shop, or go exploring on their own (and do not want to feel guilty for asking).

Once you and your guests agree on the plans, they will know what to expect and what clothes to pack. For example: where dinner will be held (coat & tie?), if they will be playing croquet, golf, or tennis, or simply spending the afternoon at the pool.

Point out goodies for them to have: cookies, candies, fruit, and drinks. Sometimes it is nice to ask if they would prefer breakfast on their own. If they say they are early risers, then suggest gathering together sometime before noon. (This gives you both free time!) Show them where the coffee/tea is and how the coffee maker works.

Show them where beach towels are, the key to the door if you lock it, the wifi code, and even how to work the tricky shower “on-off switch!”

What if guests offer to bring something?

If they ask, let them! I think it lets them feel as if they are contributing. Then, suggest something that would indeed be helpful. Nibbles for cocktail hour, a fruit salad for breakfast, or a birthday cake, and they can choose. Or, they can offer something else to bring.

What if the guest offers to help?

This depends on you as the hosts. But, if you are a guest, and there is not any staff to help serve, offer to do something: make a great Cosmopolitan, serve the nibbles at cocktail hour, offer to set or clear the table, make the coffee, or pour the wine.

Another clever cartoon by Annie Tempest! Note the little pillow on the pink chair: “Short visits make a long friendship!”

GUEST No-No’s:

Do not ask to bring a pet, a surprise guest, or a child unless the host knows in advance and approves. And, if you break something, let the host know. Try to replace it or find something similar and have it sent that week to the host.

Want to be invited back? Remember to send a handwritten thank you note (NOT an email) within 48 hours of leaving your host’s house. Better yet, bring your notecard with you, write it before you leave, and place it in your guestroom or some place obvious for the hosts to discover. One and done!

I have one previous letter with even more thoughtful details for your houseguests!

A Well-Appointed Guest Bathroom, The Essential List!

Guests are gifts you give yourself, albeit houseguests are a “labor of love” gift!

Happy Summer!

Xx

Holly

The Art of the Impromptu Welcome: A Southern Tradition

When I lived in Richmond, I fondly remember when someone new moved into the neighborhood, the tradition was to make an effort to visit them, bring a homemade southern dish, and introduce yourself. 

Recently, I received a message from a fellow Farmington Garden Club member, who said she had received a request from a new neighbor who had just moved into a house down the street from me to join the Club. She asked me to reach out to the neighbor because she was unable to do so, due to surgery, and provided me with her necessary contact information. 

Because my daughter from Berlin, Germany, is arriving in two days with her four children, it was now or never! I immediately reached out and asked if she could come for iced tea the next day. She could! So, I then asked a few more neighbors to also pop in at noon. With my busy lifestyle, impromptu gatherings have become my specialty—they tend to work well too, because people are often available!  The house was already filled with flowers from a weekend of entertaining, along with some homemade lace cookies and smoked salmon nibbles. I just had to make the iced tea… one and done!

Hosting this impromptu tea reminded me just how valuable a warm welcome can be. I hope to inspire you to do the same for a new neighbor. Here are a few tips I've found helpful…

• Start small and simple. While a cocktail party with couples is lovely, I prefer to begin with a ladies-only gathering. It's less overwhelming and helps the new neighbor remember everyone more easily.
   

• Invite intentionally. Include neighbors who live nearby, members of any clubs that might interest the newcomer, and a few people of a similar age or with children of a similar age. Ten to fifteen guests is the sweet spot—any more can be daunting for your new guest.
   

• Use name tags. Have name tags prepared in advance so you can hand one to each guest as they arrive. It makes introductions smoother and helps the newcomer remember names.
   

• Create a guest list handout. Type up the names, addresses, and contact information of all attendees and place it in an envelope to give to the new neighbor as they leave. It serves as a simple reference and an instant “starter pack” to help them put a name to a face.
   

• Follow up with your guests. Email the attendees afterward with the new neighbor’s contact info so they can easily stay in touch or offer further help.
   

• Invite your new neighbor to arrive 15 minutes before the other guests. This will give you a chance to chat and learn a little about them so that you can share this information with your guests.

• Add a personal touch to introductions. When introducing the new neighbor, mention something memorable about each guest, such as where their house is and something unique about it, a shared interest, or a fun tidbit about the person. It provides newcomers with a practical context and makes everyone feel more connected.
   

A little effort goes a long way in making someone feel genuinely welcome. And often, it is just a simple, impromptu gathering that begins the foundation of cherished friendships.  Our historic village of Farmington is truly a one-of-a-kind gem, filled with the most charming and supportive friends. We all know how fortunate we are to live here… and to welcome in a newcomer! 

Xx

Holly

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Wall brackets for well-appointed walls!

In the living room at Fox Hall, a pair of antique Italianate gilded wall brackets stand on either side of an oil painting that my husband and I discovered at a gallery in Prague. To this day, it is one of our children’s favorite paintings! The antique Chinese porcelain jars, purchased in Hong Kong, were given to me by my parents. The delicate wall brackets serve to complement the graceful curves of the porcelain. 

A pair of lovely wall brackets will enhance any wall! 

Wall brackets support three-dimensional artwork such as porcelain vases, sculptures, clocks, and even candlestick holders. They have graced European interiors for centuries. Wall brackets are my go-to decorative element for adding a touch of elegance to a room. 

This collection of Canton porcelain flanks the Chinoiserie mirror. Due to the circumference of the porcelain, they required rather large wall brackets!

Wall brackets give dimension to a wall. I recommend always purchasing them in pairs for symmetry.  They come in all sizes, shapes, and forms, and can be gilded wood, stone, plaster, or acrylic.

Look closely! The Lucite wall brackets add a quiet, contemporary touch to the pink walls in Fox Worth.

Wall brackets should complement both the object they hold and the room. They are discussed in detail in my book, The Pretty & Proper Living Room.  

The four gilded brackets from the Mario Buatta sale at Sotheby’s in NYC now happily grace our Palm Beach living room. 

This pair of wall brackets are based on an 18th-century design. They are hand-carved with an antique gold gilt. Scully and Scully offer some lovely options. 

Grandmillennial Tips:

If  you have a piece of porcelain, such as a vase or a Chinese ginger jar, and wish to display it on a wall bracket, remember to measure the widest point of the porcelain piece.  It must be the same size as the depth of the wall bracket shelf. The widest point on the porcelain may require a larger shelf surface on the wall bracket to accommodate the vase's depth.

In a house with slamming doors and overzealous housekeepers, remember to stick a small piece of museum putty or posterboard clay under the porcelain pieces displayed on wall brackets. This helps to keep the pieces in place. 

There are endless options to place on top of a wall bracket. Look around your house for a pair of “something pretty,” and ponder… are they wall bracket-worthy?!  

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To hang a pair of wall brackets too high when placed on either side of a piece of artwork. 

What is done: Center the entire composition of both the wall bracket and the item placed upon it, ensuring the overall length of the artwork or mirror is aligned. The composition can be hung a scant lower than the true center of the artwork. 

My advice? When you discover a pretty pair of wall brackets, buy them! Eventually, you’ll find something fabulous to display on them! 

Xx Holly

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Bridal Pictures: How and Where to Display Them

The Smoking Room at Highclere Castle features a console table behind the sofa, sprinkled with stunning bridal pictures of various relatives.

A lovely tradition in classically designed houses is a table devoted to bridal photographs as an homage to various brides within the family tree. In the past, the assembled portraits typically featured only the bride in a formal black-and-white pose, but they have now evolved into pictures of both the bride and groom, presented in both black and white and in color.

The Duchess’s butter-yellow sitting room in the Private Apartments at Blenheim Palace in Woodstock, England, ranks as one of the most beautifully appointed rooms ever! While filming my television program, I admired the magnificent bridal photograph of Lady Henrietta Spencer-Churchill, placed among her other relatives as brides, on the table behind me. 

Bridal photographs are traditionally grouped and displayed in the living room on a side table, a grand piano, or a table placed behind a sofa. 

The formality of the house and the photograph dictate the style of the picture frame, which can be ornate or contemporary, sleek or plain. The most traditional bridal picture frame is sterling silver or silver-plated. A French enamel frame is another stunning choice. Italian fine leather with gold embellishments or antique gilded frames are other options.

It was an honor to tour the ravishing Rienzi House of the Museum of Fine Arts in Houston, Texas, with Carroll Goodman, the granddaughter of the owners who built it. Carroll wore her mother’s wedding gown, and other brides in her family line carry on this charming tradition. The antique console table in the living room features several family bridal portraits, including Carroll. 

My beloved mother-in-law offered me her wedding dress, shown here. I was thrilled and honored to wear it.  I can’t believe it, but Stuart and I will have been married fifty years this September… time flies when you are in love and having fun! 

In my book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, I discuss how and where to engrave a silver picture frame.  If the wedding photograph is just of the bride, then a monogram with her new married name initials is in order. If it is of the husband and wife, then their joint initial monogram is appropriate. The wedding date is a lovely addition as well.

Xx

Holly

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Wedding Guests: 5 no-no's to know!

Alexandra, our daughter, was married to Maximilian in the Berlin Cathedral (Berlin Dom), which is the largest Protestant Cathedral in Germany. The service was performed by our Farmington minister in English and the minister of the Dom in German. It was a magical day as we celebrated with family and guests who came from all over the world.

As I reflected on Alexandra's magical wedding day in Berlin, I was reminded of how much thought and care goes into making such occasions meaningful. Recently, a bride shared her observations about guest etiquette—things she wished everyone knew. With 'wedding season' upon us, here are a few timeless tips and thoughtful reminders for being a gracious guest that every couple hopes to see at their ceremony! 

No-no: To arrive at the exact time listed on the invitation.

What to do: Plan to arrive 15–20 minutes early. This ensures you're seated before the ceremony begins. When the mother-of-the-bride rises, take that as your cue to stand.

No-no: To wear sunglasses during the ceremony or the reception.

What to do: Remove them before entering the church. Even if the reception is outside, refrain from wearing sunglasses. Why? When the wedding couple look back fondly at their wedding photographs, they want to see the faces of their guests, not sunglassed-movie stars!  

No-no: To have your cell phone on or to chew gum.

What is done:  Turn your cell phone OFF as even the vibrate mode may possibly be heard during a solemn moment.  And, leave the gum in the car!

No-no: For guests to wear white dresses.

What is done:  As popular as it is to wear white these days, remember, it is the bride’s day to shine and stand out in the crowd of guests. (Although, royal wedding participants traditionally do wear white.) When in doubt about the dress code, reach out to the bride, groom, or the bride’s mother to confirm what is expected. It is also considerate to ask what shades the bridesmaids will be wearing to avoid matching them. 

No-no:  To say “congratulations” to the bride. 

What is done: The word “congratulations” to a bride, historically, implies that the bride won the groom, when in fact, the groom should be congratulated for having the bride accept his proposal.  And, yes, this is an old-school tradition, but worthy of your attention.  “Congratulations” are in order for the groom, and “best wishes” to the bride and/or to the newlywed couple.   

Our daughter Caroline, and her new husband Edward, merrily departed the reception at Marble House in Newport, Rhode Island with joyful guests cheering!

While it may be tempting to photograph the ceremony, leave that up to the professional photographer. Your respectful attention is what is revered and expected in the church. If you wish to photograph outside of the church or at the reception, be thoughtful about it.  If you are tempted to post your photographs on social media, try to refrain until you can ask the bride for her permission first before sharing your images, as she has invited you as a guest, not as the paparazzi! 

My family shared a cherished and sentimental moment that was captured in the Dom… our first child to be married.

Being a thoughtful guest is a meaningful way to honor the wedding couple and contribute to the joy of their celebration. Weddings are a time of love, tradition, family and friends—and your gracious presence will be remembered and cherished fondly. 

I imagine you have a few more no-no’s to share for your personal experiences too- please, do tell!

Xx

Holly 

PS: I am delighted that the Director of the Hill-Stead Museum, Anna Swinbourne, will be joining us for the luncheon I am hosting on July 20th. A special tour of the museum is also being offered. There is still one place available for the luncheon, so please let me know if you wish to attend. It will most certainly be a festive event at Fox Hall with such charming guests in attendance!

Sunglasses: Summer Etiquette!

What do summer sunglasses and gloves have in common?

Both are thoughtfully removed whilst being introduced to another person!

Recently, I attended a lovely luncheon fundraiser in Palm Beach, held outside under a charming, fern-adorned canopy by The Colony Hotel's pool. I was seated at a table with an inspiring and very accomplished group of ladies. The conversation amongst us was informative and most delightful! Here is the conundrum: one lady had sunglasses on the entire time. If I ever have the good fortune of seeing her again, I must confess that I will not have a clue who she is, because she never removed her sunglasses! And, her sunglasses were tinted silver, giving them a mirror-like appearance… rawwwther distracting, as I looked at myself the entire time I spoke to her!

Another similar experience was when a friend invited me to lunch at The Breakers. As we departed the dining room, my host recognized a longtime friend entering and introduced me to her. The friend wore a hat and very dark sunglasses. Well, I can remember her name, but I have no idea what she looks like. I would never be able to recognize her!  And yet, after our lengthy conversation, she might be able to recognize me if we ever ran into one another again. It would be embarrassing for me not to acknowledge her. Has this ever happened to you?!

Just as removing your right-hand glove is a courtesy when shaking hands with another person, removing your sunglasses upon meeting someone for the first time is not only a time-honored tradition, but also a thoughtfully gracious gesture. 

Out of consideration, I also choose to remove my sunglasses when greeting someone I already know. There is something about “smiling eyes” that express love and joy, which I prefer not to hide behind my sunglasses!  

Forbidden Faux Pas:

No-no: To wear sunglasses inside at a social gathering. 

No-no:  To wear sunglasses to a wedding ceremony. Even if it takes place outside and the sun is shining, it's thoughtful to remove them so that the photographs of the event show who the guests are, and not the “wannabe movie stars” (wink wink) wearing sunglasses. 

Pink wishes for a sunny summer!

Xx

Holly

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Walking to the new Palm Hotel, on Royal Palm Way in Palm Beach, in my Kristen Maxi Dress from Jude Connally! 

The Cachet of Cachepots!

One of my most cherished treasures is a pair of Herend cachepots in the Chinese Bouquet pattern, rendered in a delicate raspberry pink. Just look at those pretty little gilded legs! These were a thoughtful gift from dear friends—somehow, they knew that I had a weakness for pink. Today, they grace our mantle at Fox Hall, flanking a beloved English Staffordshire horse at the center. When the peonies and pink mountain laurel are in bloom, I especially enjoy arranging their blossoms in these darling vessels.

There certainly is cachet to cachepots!  

When my daughter received a cachepot as a wedding gift, she turned to me with a puzzled look. “A planter?” she asked as she was composing her thank-you note. I told her, “No, it is called a cachepot.” The look on her face was priceless. “A what? Mummy, is that one of your old-school Southern terms? It looks like a planter to me!” Well, she wasn’t entirely wrong—it does hold a plant! But the term is French: cachepot (pronounced cash-poe), translates to “hide a pot”—specifically, a flower pot.

Unlike outdoor planters, a cachepot is designed for indoor display and does not have drainage holes. It's not meant to replace a traditional flowerpot but rather to conceal it, elevating the appearance of the plant or floral arrangement within. A beautiful porcelain cachepot can transform an ordinary houseplant, a clutch of cut flowers, or even seasonal bulbs into a refined decorative accent.

Cachepots are typically sized to suit tabletops, mantles, chests, or consoles. Larger vessels, such as jardinieres or floor planters, tend to reside on the floor and serve a different decorative purpose. The more ornate and gilded the cachepot, the more at home it will feel in a formal setting. Antique and reproduction porcelain cachepots, with their delicate hand-painted motifs and gleaming gold embellishments, are perfect for a living room, dining table, powder room, or mantle piece.

Conversely, simpler or more modern designs crafted from wicker, metal, lacquer, bamboo, or brass, suit informal spaces beautifully such as kitchens, libraries, or sunrooms. 

Next time you’re tempted by a grocery store or floral shop orchid, azalea, or a pot of daffodils, slip the plastic pot into a cachepot instead, and you’ll instantly elevate your purchase from utilitarian to charming.

GrandMillennial Design Tips:

• Buy in pairs. A matching pair of cachepots creates symmetry and balance, especially on a mantle. Fill them with seasonal flowers, a classic topiary, or a graceful trailing ivy for a timeless appearance.

• Play with placement. One long, narrow cachepot centered on a mantle, bookshelf, or dining table can be just as impactful as a pair.

• Repurpose your cachepot! Cachepots make lovely vessels for silver flatware at a buffet, a creative candle holder, or even a chic ice bucket for a bottle of wine. Want to serve ice cream at the table in style? Nest the container in a cachepot for an effortlessly elegant presentation.

• Coordinate colors: As with any accessory, consider your room’s color scheme and design style. Both the cachepot and the floral contents should harmonize with your space.

• A cherished gift. Cachepots make thoughtful gifts for weddings, birthdays, or to a hostess when invited as a houseguest. Their versatility and beauty ensure they’ll be enjoyed for years to come, in any room and any season.
   

This hand-painted cachepot by Anna Weatherly features delicate pink tulips and echoes the artistic traditions of Hungary. Crafted from fine European porcelain and embellished with 24K gold accents, it measures 7½" in diameter and 6¼" high. It’s available at Scully and Scully on Park Avenue in NYC and is ideal for elegantly dressing up a store-bought plant!

On another note, I am thrilled to be hosting another luncheon on July 20th! The table is almost complete, with only two spaces remaining available.  HERE is more detailed information.  It was a delightful experience meeting charming subscribers from across the USA last fall.  We will have a grand time this July too… I hope that you can attend! 

Xx

Holly

P.S. I've partnered with artist Mara Sfara for an exciting giveaway! Click here or the image below to learn how to enter.

Dog Etiquette for Guests: The Do's and Don'ts!

This is my sweet, but very naughty, Miss Zsa Zsa, our fourth English Jack Russell terrier. They are “terrors,” but adorable! Photo credit: Gabriella Narus

“Dogs laugh, but they laugh with their tails.” 

Max Eastman, American Author 

As long as I can remember, four-legged furry animals have always made my heart go ‘pitter-patter’ with happiness. I have been fortunate to have always had a dog (and a few cats too). I brought home all kinds of “random treasures” as a child, much to the shock of my unsuspecting parents. I cannot imagine life without animals!

But, not everyone loves dogs, so here are a few etiquette reminders. 

This sweet illustration with a Jack Russell captured my heart as a child… and still does!

If your dog is going to be a houseguest, consider these courtesies:

~Inquire where the animal should stay in the house before arriving. Either bring a kennel cage, or a baby-gate, as needed to mind your pet. 

~It is rawwwther presumptuous to ask if your pet can sleep in the bed with you, as the host/hostess may not want pet hair or dander in their guest room or on their beautiful linens. 

~Along with the food you pack for your dog or cat, bring along bowls for their food and water. Don’t expect to use their pretty porcelain.

~Bring a lead to walk your dog and pick up after them… and if a “mistake” happens in the house, clean it up the best you can. It is thoughtful to admit this mistake to the owner of the house and offer to pay for a professional to clean the spot on the carpet. 

 “A house is not a home until it has a dog.” 

Gerald Durrell

“Oops, the flower vase fell over… curious Jack Russells!

For guests visiting your house: Ask them two questions, either at the door, or preferably in advance of their arrival:

- “Are you allergic to dogs (or cats)?”

- “Are you afraid of dogs?”

Their answer will alert you immediately so that you may place your pet in another room while your guests are visiting. We will keep Zsa Zsa in her “penthouse” until our guests leave… unless they request to see her!

 “I think dogs are the most amazing creatures; they give unconditional love. For me, they are the role models for being alive.” 

Gilda Radner Comedienne

Jack Russells tend to be “jumping-jacks,” especially as puppies, and cannot control their excitement when greeting someone new! Remember, it can be quite disconcerting for any guest to have a dog lick, jump, or shed on their clothes, especially on a black dress, stockings, or dark suit.  

“If you want a friend in Washington, D.C, get a dog.” 

Former President Harry S. Truman

Instill in your children, at a young age, to always ask first, “May I pet your dog?” before touching someone else’s dog. 

Do not assume that other people want your dog to sniff their dog! Keep your dog close to you while walking them. While my dog loves people and children, she is not friendly with other dogs and it’s very disconcerting when others allow their dog to come running over to her! 

Grandmillennial Tips:

If your dog is allowed on your furniture, consider purchasing a few extra yards of the same fabric when you are having a piece upholstered or slipcovered. With the extra yardage, have a throw-blanket made. When you place the throw on the furniture, it will “disappear” visually and can quickly be dry cleaned as needed, saving the actual upholstery fabric undue wear, and… pet fragrance! It can even be quilted or have a decorative trim applied.

If your petite dog is allowed to hop on your sofa or sleep on your bed but requires a leg-up, consider buying a small, decorative antique footstool to place next to it, versus mundane generic dog steps! 

 “If you think dogs can’t count, try putting three dog biscuits in your pocket and then give him only two of them.” 

Author Phil Pastoret

Xx

Holly 

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Butter makes it better!

For a ladies’ luncheon for the Duchess of Rutland, visiting from Belvoir Castle, I placed heart-shaped butter on the guest’s butter plates. (The candles are lit just to add ambiance to the photograph. The tradition in the USA is not to light them before dusk!) 

In a dash? I usually am!  I enjoy cooking for my dinner parties, which is my way of showing love.  But, when my travel and time do not allow me to, and a caterer is a must, I still try to make the dessert, create the floral arrangement, and add one more little detail that graces the table.  What could it be?

I use a butter mold so that each person’s individual butter plate has a uniquely shaped piece of butter on it. This is incredibly easy to do and can be prepared in advance, then frozen until your party. One and done!

Butter molds have been used since the 18th century and were traditionally made of wood, used by dairy farmers. Their stamped designs indicated their farms and added visual appeal. And today, there are fanciful molds for individual shapes made of silicone. A multitude of designs can be found in specialty kitchen suppliers online, and customized molds can be ordered on Etsy.  

In our historic Georgian house in Glastonbury, CT, the Brunschwig & Fils documentary wallpaper in our dining room featured a few butterflies, hence a butterfly mold, which now complements our Queen Victoria Herend porcelain plates.  And I also have a fox head mold for Fox Worth, our place in Palm Beach.

While shopping for Valentine's gifts for my grandchildren, I spied a heart-shaped silicone ice cube mold for petite ice cubes, which can also be easily used for butter molds. Can you spy the fox head mold next to it? 

I find silicone molds extremely pliable, making them the most manageable vessel to use when removing frozen butter (as seen in my video HERE).  They can also be placed in the dishwasher. 

First, I allow a stick of butter to come to room temperature, then spread it into the molds, and freeze.  Add saran wrap on top to keep the butter fresh.  Remove from the freezer, bend and snap it out, and place one or two on everyone’s butter plate before your guests arrive. (Or, have your caterer place them while the dinner is prepared.)

GrandMillennial Tips:

If you don’t have time to make the butter molds, just slice pieces of butter lengthwise from the rectangular stick, then cut them in half, creating two triangles. 

Place a stick of butter into some saran wrap, and roll the softened butter into a log shape.  Chill and cut into rounds. 

Butter is even more appealing when it has a touch of greenery on or next to it.  As long as I have been entertaining, I try to place a little sprig of rosemary, parsley, mint, or even a tiny leaf or flower (from a non-poisonous plant) on or near the butter. 

Just a touch of green makes the butter sing!

Have you heard of a butter curler? It appears to be a metal hook with one serrated side. My advice: avoid it! I find it challenging to master this instrument, so I use my easy silicone molds instead.

These butterballs were presented to me by the waiter at Renato’s Restaurant off Worth Avenue.  Restaurants use these for the perfect “butterball shape.” They can be purchased pre-made online. 

Oh, I  am happy to announce an upcoming event! I do hope you’ll join me! I am hosting another private luncheon at Fox Hall in Farmington, Connecticut, on July 20th.  Do keep an eye out for the invitation, which will be sent to your email this week. Last year, I was honored that the spaces filled up very quickly, and I hope that you can attend. (And butter will be served!)

Xx Holly

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Gallant Gestures: A Gentleman's Guide to Opening Doors!

After I had first entered the handsome doors of The Jockey Club in Newmarket, England, Stuart followed.  What an impressive private club, boasting “no less than six Prime Ministers on its list of members.”

Last week, I wrote about the etiquette of opening doors, which inspired two gentlemen readers to reach out to me. Robert reminded me, “Gentlemen, it is always ‘ladies first’ when exiting an elevator!” Kristopher kindly encouraged me to address manners specific to young gentlemen, to instill awareness of proper “door protocol.” Grand idea! 

So, dear gentlemen, allow me to share a few timeless suggestions. While some of these customs may seem old-fashioned, the spirit behind them is eternal: kindness, consideration, and—shall I dare say—gallantry. (Plus, a few brownie points in the eyes of a lady never hurt.)

Sidewalks:
When walking with a lady, a gentleman should walk on the side closest to the curb. Traditionally, this protected the woman from passing vehicles and splashes from street puddles. Even today, it remains a thoughtful gesture that demonstrates awareness and consideration.

Staircases:
Ladies go first when walking up a staircase. However, when descending, the gentleman should go first, just in case she may trip or require a steadying hand.

Boarding a Boat:
Gentlemen, board first and offer your hand to assist the lady safely aboard.

Restaurants & Buildings:
Entering? Hold the door and allow the lady to go first. Exiting? It’s considerate for the gentleman to step out first and hold the door open. Why? To ensure her safety in case of any danger outside of the building. (Well, in this day and age, in big cities, this is still a good idea!)   

Dining Out:
Let the lady order first, unless she asks you to do so. It’s a respectful gesture.

Car Doors: 
Always open the car door for a lady. If it's a hired car, and you're both seated in the back, don’t ask her to scoot over. Close her door, then walk around and enter from the other side.

An exciting and joyful moment with my gallant husband, Stuart, before we entered the car to deliver us to Buckingham Palace to attend a dinner hosted by the Princess Royal, Princess Anne. 

While times have changed, the heart of etiquette remains the same: treating others with respect and thoughtfulness. These small acts of consideration might feel old-fashioned, but they never go out of style. And gentlemen—whether you're 18 or 80—kindness will always set you apart as a “Prince of a Man!” 

Xx

Holly

PS Happy birthday wishes today to my darling daughter, Alexandra, in Berlin, Germany! We love you to the sun, moon, and stars… and beyond!

The etiquette of entering & exiting doors!

How elated I was to attend my “big” reunion at St. Catherine’s School, an Episcopal girls’ prep school in Richmond, Virginia, which started in 1890… and no, I’m not THAT old! 

My dear parents gave me the opportunity to attend a school that embraces gracious traditions. Because of that, I also made lifelong friends and camaraderie. At my reunion, many commented about my newsletter and how they share it with their children and grandchildren… the ultimate compliment!  My darling classmate, Caroline, suggested the topic of  “common courtesies” as a refresher and reminder for us to share with our children. The topic? Doors: how to politely go in and out of a public door! 

“All doors open to courtesy.” – Thomas Fuller

RULE #1: Whenever you push or pull a door open, look behind you to see if someone else is coming, and hold it open for them. 

Proper protocol suggests that the person coming out of the door has the right of way, and the person outside of the door politely waits to the side. If the occasion allows, the person outside the door offers to hold the door open while the other person departs the building. 

The front door at Fox Hall continues to be a happy “revolving door” to friends, family, parties, and receptions!

While in Williamsburg, Virginia, I walked to The Cheese Shop. (Have you ever tried their Virginia peanuts? I bet you can’t eat just one!) As I was about to enter the store, a 10-year-old boy came out of the door, saw me waiting outside, and slammed the door shut in front of me. I surmise that he didn't know better. It's not a big deal, but then again, IT IS! Unless you teach your children these common courtesies, they will never know, because thoughtful manners are taught. They are not innate behaviors. (Even though we, as parents, wish they were!) 

“Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot.” - C. Thomas

How about elevator doors? How many times have you had to say, “Excuse me,” to people eager to board the elevator, blocking the door outside as you attempt to exit the elevator? Those waiting for the elevator should kindly stand to the side, not in front of it. This is a crucial courtesy to teach children. And subway doors? Well, good luck with that… a whole other dilemma! 

At the Farmington Polo Club, the person leading a horse out of the barn has the right of way. If a horse and rider are waiting outside, they move aside until the other horse and rider walk out of the barn. 

“Be an opener of doors.”  - Ralph Waldo Emmerson 

Grand Millennial Tips:

Many gentlemen hesitate to open a door for a lady these days, for fear they will hear unpleasantness from the lady, like how she is capable of doing it herself! I find opening a door for a lady to be exceptionally thoughtful, and I am flattered by this courteous and polite gesture. 

This is what I do: when a gentleman who is ahead of me politely stops to hold a door open for me as I enter a public building, I make a point of thanking him AND encouraging him to go in front of me if there is a queue ahead, e.g., the post office, bank, ice cream counter. Why should he have to wait behind me to be served when he was there first? This is a new “common courtesy” for ladies to extend to gentlemen, especially in this age of equality. 

When you see a Mum with a baby stroller, dash to open the door for her. As a mother and grandmother, I vividly remember the struggle of trying to open a door whilst pushing a stroller!

Happy Memorial Day! It is our honor to celebrate the men and women who have served our country.  We enjoy our American freedom because of their commitment and service.  God Bless America! 

XX

Holly

PS: I hope you will peek at my new “Holly Holden Collection x Jude Connally,” classically designed dresses that are to be loved and lived in!  See the link below.

Pictured above: Tierney Dress Jude Cloth & Kristen Maxi Dress Jude Cloth. 

Exciting News!! Jude Connally & Holly Holden Collaborate!

Exciting news!  I am ELATED to unveil my latest collaboration!

 ~The Jude Connally x Holly Holden Collection~

Together, we designed a collection of happy dresses for day and play!

So, how did this all transpire?  

Here is my story!

About 12 years ago, Stuart and I were at the Saratoga Races in New York. Afterwards, we walked down Broadway, when Stuart spied a pretty pink dress by Jude Connally in a pop-up shop. I tried it on, and we were both smitten. I still have (and wear) that dress. I had never heard of her brand until then… and henceforth, have continued to fill my wardrobe with her creations!

No matter where I am, Jude Connally's dresses have an “attractor factor.” I always garner numerous compliments and inquiries when wearing one!  My admiration for this timelessly pretty clothing brand inspired me to reach out in 2021 and interview Jude Zimmerman, the clever designer behind the brand.  That is when I learned about her secret “Jude cloth,” which is soft, comfortable, and washable.

We became friends who share the same values and embrace elegant, classical design. In celebration of Jude Connally's 15-year milestone, we collaborated to create a timeless, colorful, and joyful “Holly Holden Collection.”  Each piece is meant to be lived in and loved! 

Not only are Jude Connally's designs pretty, but they are also flattering on ANY figure, machine washable, wrinkle-free, easy to pack and travel with, and made in NYC. Now, that is a winning combination for active living! From walking my dog, Zsa Zsa, to going to a Salvation Army Board meeting, out to dinner, or traveling abroad, I think each design is perfect for my “day and play” lifestyle!

It was a thrill to create my collection with Jude and her dedicated team. I chose the colors and themes, and they presented me with fabulous design motifs representing my signature style. The result embraces classic elegance! From horse bridles to a classic Palm Beach bamboo design, and a timeless pinstripe dress (with my fox & crown logo embroidered on the chest), this capsule collection reflects a charmingly confident, yet fun-loving attitude. I bet that these jubilant statement pieces are the ones you will want to wear over and over again!

Here is my secret for you today! The official launch of our collection will take place on Jude Connally’s website on Tuesday, May 27th. As a darling subscriber, Jude has offered you a sneak peek and a secret link to make a pre-purchase online. She thinks these will sell out quickly… love her confidence!  Here is the link to order before the actual launch date. 

Jude is a savvy and clever businesswoman, and her joyful personality is intoxicatingly fun! We had a ball photographing the collection with Capehart Photography at the new, fabulously chic boutique hotel, The Palm House, in Palm Beach. (Put this on your list to visit!) I am grateful for their gracious offer to use this as our stunning backdrop.

Here is a peek at behind the scenes HERE on Instagram, and three pieces below are from the collection:

Kate

A timeless, equestrian-themed, tunic-style dress which features a flattering V-neckline and 3/4 sleeves. It is the charming blend of elegance and comfort, with a quiet nod to my beloved horses!

Kristen Maxi

A classic tunic dress, sleeveless with a mandarin collar, and an easy fit through the waist and hips- perfect for day or evening in Palm Beach… or any festive venue! 

Finley

A darling pin-striped, knee-length shift dress that features a classic point collar, polished long sleeves, and my discreetly embroidered crown and fox logo. I adore how this flattering silhouette transitions seamlessly anytime of day…and has pockets! 

Let me know what you think… I hope you will have a ball wearing my collection. Please be a dear and share this news with your friends too! 

Xx 

Holly

PS  Thank you again, Palm House for providing the perfect Palm Beach venue to debut the HH Collection!

Tiny Flower Arrangements - Darling and Done!

There is something quite charming about little flower bouquets! With spring upon us in New England, the hopeful anticipation of pretty flowers in the garden comes to mind.  No matter what size your house is, consider making a few petite flower arrangements by using very small and unique vases.  The joy and allure of lilliputian-sized arrangements sprinkled about in your house will bring an unexpected delight when discovered. 

These tiny silver riding boot vases are from England. The flowers were picked from my mother-in-law's bountiful Cape Cod garden.

Simply pluck a few blossoms from your garden or borrow a few from another arrangement, and place them in a diminutive vase to create an instantly charming arrangement… darling and done!  

Be creative and think outside the box for small vessels that you own and can use as miniature vases. A clever way to decorate a serving platter of nibbles is to place a silver baby cup, or a glass (above), or a porcelain egg cup filled with a few flowers.

A silver baby cup makes the sweetest little vase for flowers! Lilacs from the garden adorn my daughter Caroline’s monogrammed baby cup in the living room at Fox Hall. Placing a small, round, silver tray underneath my arrangements serves to enhance the floral appearance. 

Oh!  Remember to anchor your little arrangement on a tray of hors d'oeuvres with a tiny ball of “poster-board clay” so that it will not topple or fall off! 

Mummy’s silver cigarette holder is garnished with a few flowers and appears to be a miniature champagne bucket! 

From platters of delectable nibbles, to bedside tables, coffee tables, and in powder rooms, these are perfect places for cheerful little bouquets.  More examples can be found in my book, The Pretty and Proper Living Room, available at Scully & Scully.

XX,

Holly

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Protocol for place cards!

The top two photos are examples of place card holders I have collected through the years. Below are place setting examples from two dinner parties I have attended. 

We all know how much effort it takes to host a memorable, seated dinner party for our guests!  Seating placement is one aspect of proper entertaining, and it takes time and considerable thought.  A place card (or seating card) tells guests where they will be seated at the table. Guests tend to appreciate place cards because they confirm that the host cares about creating an atmosphere for delightful and engaging conversation between their guests… and, they also eliminate that awkward dance of “where should I sit?” out of the equation!

I received this comment about place cards from a darling subscriber:

“I was recently at a beautiful dinner party where the hostess no doubt had made every effort to prepare her seating plan thoughtfully.  I was aghast to see a couple of guests rearranging the place cards to seat themselves in a different location than where the hostess had planned for them.  REALLY??? Have you ever had this happen?  The hostess was quietly gracious, but I’m sure she was filing this behavior away for future reference… can you spell, faux pas?!!”

Oh, dear! Changing the placement of a place card is a BIG no-no for a guest! I have indeed witnessed this at larger functions, such as weddings. 

As a guest, remember that a dinner invitation is a gift from the host; thus, your seating placement should not be dismissed at your will… accept your placement at the table respectfully. Showing gratitude for being invited and respect for an appointed seat at the table is something to be revered, especially if you wish to be invited back!   

If a place card is not present, the host may direct guests to their seats, or the guests may choose where they wish to be seated. 

Place cards grace our table for all of our dinner parties. For large family gatherings, I invite the children to make the place cards (cut them out, color them, and fill in the names) and arrange them as they wish, as a surprise for everyone, as long as Stuart and I are at either end of the table. This always adds an amusing and unexpected aspect to the event. There is something so sweet about seeing colored construction paper place cards with pinking sheared edges and crayon writing! 

The old-school saying, “Six seats itself,” translates to three couples who can easily seat themselves, with the host and hostess on either end, alternating boy & girl!

Protocol for Place Cards:

Place cards need to be legible! For a formal dinner, black or gold ink is used. For my impromptu dinner parties, I also write with pink ink—go figure!

A title (Ambassador, General, etc.) may be included with the first and last name for a formal dinner. 

For an informal dinner, using just the first name is acceptable. 

A place card may be displayed in a place card holder, which can be placed above the dinner plate and centered or above the forks. 

A folded (tented) place card does not require a holder, but using a place card holder is also acceptable. I use place card holders for both folded and non-folded place cards, because they are pretty! 

A tented card may be larger than a regular place card for business functions. The person's name may be printed on both sides so that others sitting at the table can also see whom they are addressing at the meeting.

The paper color and design are the same for the place card, the menu card, and the table card (indicating the table number for larger functions).

When a guest does not show up at a seated function, especially with more than one table, the host/hostess may request that the serving staff remove the entire place setting and chair, allowing the other guests to scoot closer together without having an empty gap at the table—much more conducive to jovial conversation!

Over the years, collecting assorted themed place card holders has been a delight. They serve to complement various celebrations, seasons, and themes. Anything from darling Herend bunnies to silver Chinese characters, silver watering cans, bouquets of porcelain flowers, or running horses adds a charming, personal detail to a well-appointed table. What are some of your favorite place card holders?

Xx Holly

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Thank you notes: The secret code!

Do you know what it means if you see a line drawn through someone’s name on their personal notecards or stationery? It is a secret code to indicate that you are a friend on a less formal basis and that a title is unnecessary. This applies to any title such as Mr., Mrs., Senator, Dr., Countess… you get the idea. It is an unwritten etiquette rule with a longstanding tradition you may already know about.  I am grateful my parents shared it with me. And, for those unaware of this gracious gesture, now you know! 

A handwritten note is more important than ever, especially with the present-day trend of sending off a quick thank-you via email.  A handwritten acknowledgment for someone’s hospitality, gift, or act of kindness is the pinnacle of graciousness, a quiet beacon of polish, and a proper nod to good manners. 

Have you ever heard the old-school term “bread and butter” note and wondered what it is? My Instagram explains it here. Simply, it is a note of appreciation for someone’s hospitality and should be sent out or delivered “by hand” as soon as possible after leaving someone’s house. A thank-you note is an appreciated gift to your host. 

Interestingly enough, in my lifetime, the people who take the time to write a note tend to be some of the most remarkable, successful people I have ever met. They understand how important it is to recognize someone else’s effort on their behalf.  From respected leaders to grand-dames, volunteers to philanthropists, and even grandchildren, thank-you notes are instinctually cherished by the recipients.

When you are handwriting a thank-you note, be sure to write on the correct sides of your writing paper, in this order:

Occasionally, I will discover a handwritten note from Mummy or Daddy, whether inside a book or a gift they gave me, and I immediately feel their loving presence. Seeing my mother's loopy handwriting or my father’s traditional blue fountain pen ink on a note instantly gives me a wonderful sense of nostalgia and comfort. Has this happened to you, too?

The tradition of writing thank-you notes deserves to be preserved. Each note serves as a tangible reminder of the relationships we cherish and the kindness we receive. Let’s encourage those entering the professional world or graduating to embrace the “secret importance” of handwritten notes to convey gratitude, demonstrating effort and thoughtfulness… it will also set them apart in a crowded landscape!

Xx 

Holly

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A Well-Appointed House Guest Bathroom: The Essential List!

So, you have houseguests coming!  How well-prepared is your Guest Bathroom?  

While you are not trying to be a 5-star hotel, you want your guests to feel comfortable, relaxed, and attended to! 

Assemble a little “guest bathroom basket” under the sink, or place it in a vanity drawer or their bedroom closet. Fill it with items your houseguests may have forgotten or appurtenances they may suddenly discover they need. This extra effort will relieve your houseguests because they do not have to “ask you” for something; it’s all at their fingertips if needed! 

The Houseguest Bathroom Essential List: 

• Linens: Two big fluffy bath towels (or more), two hand towels, and two washcloths per guest (a black make-up hand towel is thoughtful, too)

• A white cotton floor mat near the shower or tub

• A new bar of soap on the sink AND in the shower/tub 

• A bottle of liquid body soap (millennials prefer this over a bar of soap)

• Shampoo (get one for color-treated hair… just saying!)

• Conditioner

• Mouthwash (fill a crystal decanter with mouthwash and place it next to the sink… it will look pretty!)

• Small drinking glass (I prefer a silver mint julep cup, it cannot break!) 

• A hairdryer  

• Hooks on the door or a place to hang damp/wet towels

• A box of tissues 

• Two terry robes: Medium & Large for the Guest Bedroom or Bathroom 

• A magnifying mirror on the wall or on a stand

• A pretty waste bin

• A small vase of cut flowers or a little orchid plant by the sink (a silver baby cup is the perfect size for either)

ADDITIONAL ITEMS- place these under the sink or in a vanity drawer:

• Shower cap

• Hair spray

• Hair mousse

• Body lotion

• Extra rolls of potty paper

• Travel-size toothpaste

• New toothbrush 

• New razor

• Shaving cream

• Make-up remover

• Cotton balls

• Nail file

• Nail polish remover

• Tweezers

• Roll of Tums or antacid

• Advil or Tylenol- small bottle

• Needle and thread kit

• A pair of little scissors

• Lint brush

• Comb

• Small hairbrush

• Q-tips- a small amount

• Spray deodorant

• Feminine products

• Sunscreen (for a resort house)

• Room scent spray

• Nightlight (I keep one plugged in the bathroom outlet)

While this list may seem extensive, you may already have some of these items.  

Grand Millennial Tips:

If you have items collected from a previous hotel stay such as a needle and thread kit, comb, nail file, or shower cap, repurpose them for your guest bathroom… one and done!

I purchase as many items as possible in “travel-size” so that they do not take up much room and can be tossed after a guest has used them.

My daughters in Berlin and Park City thoughtfully provide electric curlers in their guest bathrooms for me so I do not have to pack mine!

Even though you are not running a hotel, your houseguests will appreciate your attentiveness. (Warning: they may choose to stay and never leave… good luck with that!)

Xx
Holly

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Ladies, do you tilt your hat to the right or left?!

This hat is a fabulously elegant, pink creation by the world-renowned milliner, Rachel Trevor-Morgan, London.

Kentucky Derby day is near, so let’s chat about hats!

Ladies, did you know that the appropriate side to tilt your hat is to the right side of your face? That’s right! 

Rachel Trevor-Morgan is a clever and, OH, SO talented London milliner with a Royal Warrant, and she has been a lovely sponsor. When I visited her in London at her atelier last year, she confirmed that ladies’ hats are “traditionally” placed or tilted/slanted to the right side of the face of a lady. 

Bows, pins, and other ornamentations are also placed on the right side of a woman’s hat. And for gentlemen? The ornamentation goes on the left side of the hat.

Alternatively, a bow can be “centered” on the front or the back. Miss Zsa Zsa and I enjoyed a drive with Stuart to Newport, Rhode Island. I am wearing the “Holly Holden” bow on my favorite hat from Dress for Cocktails.

Even though milliners are quite creative these days and decorate all aspects of a hat, I thought you may wish to know the proper way to wear and embellish your hats!

GrandMillennial Tips

Ladies: 

After five in the evening, or once the sun sets, a lady does not wear a brimmed hat. The reasoning behind this is that a brim is not needed after sunset.

In Europe (and other countries), respectfully inquire when you are invited to attend a wedding, funeral, or christening if the host recommends wearing a hat. It is customary for ladies to wear elegant hats to these functions.

Gentlemen: 

The rule of thumb for men is to remove your hat when indoors or in the presence of a lady. Hats are off during the National Anthem. 

It was a delight to be with the 8th Earl of Carnarvon again when he visited Connecticut from his ancestral home, Highclere Castle (aka Downton Abbey), for a Highclere Castle Gin event in honor of the late Queen Elizabeth II’s Platinum Jubilee, hosted by Adam von Gootkin, CEO of Highclere Castle Spirits Company. 

I hope you have a galloping good time at The Derby, or for that matter, anytime you wear a hat!  
Xx 

Holly

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Chargers: When NOT to use them!

Silver chargers are often used for formal dinner party celebrations at Fox Hall.

A “charger” is a plate that is more significant in diameter than a dinner plate. It is also referred to as a service plate or an underplate. While chargers are used for decorative purposes these days, they used to be primarily to protect the table from hot plates being placed directly on top of the table’s wood surface. They date back to the 15th century. Chargers vary in size from 11-14" in diameter.  

Food is never served on the charger itself. Instead, the dinner plate is placed on top of the charger. Additional courses may also be served on the charger.  

Do you know when NOT to use a charger?  The dessert course! A charger is permanently removed before the dessert course is served.

Chargers have become a popular decoration for dinner tables in recent decades. They are made of various materials and have endless color options. The most traditional style of charger is made of porcelain or silver. For formal dinner parties, I prefer silver because it complements the other silver accouterments on my table (candlesticks, wine coasters, flatware, serving pieces) and adds a hint of glamour to enhance the notable occasion.

Chargers are often used to decorate the table for visual interest and are then removed, as is frequently done in private clubs or restaurants. 

At the Palm Beach Yacht Club, a handsome cobalt blue and gold charger featuring the Club insignia greets guests at the table.  When a cocktail is ordered, it is served on top of the charger. The charger is then removed before the guest's first course is served.  

Chargers are rarely used in a proper English country house. My dear friend, the Executive Director of The English Manner, William Hanson (with his brilliant British sense of humor) summarizes the use of chargers: “They serve no practical use as you do not eat off one and are, frankly, a waste of money!"

Pictured at a White House dinner, a handsome gold-enhanced charger, created in honor of President Dwight Eisenhower, adds to the formality of the table.

Grandmillennial Tips:

Another way to repurpose a charger/service plate is to place it underneath a flower arrangement. It collects the fallen pollen and enhances, reflects, and frames the arrangement!

Pretty porcelain chargers may also be used as unique artwork by creating a design on a wall using plate hangers.

Consider using a charger to serve hors d'oeuvres. They are the perfect size for small gatherings.

The silver charger adds a glimmer of glamour to your flower arrangement! 

Xx

Holly

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