After I had first entered the handsome doors of The Jockey Club in Newmarket, England, Stuart followed. What an impressive private club, boasting “no less than six Prime Ministers on its list of members.”
Last week, I wrote about the etiquette of opening doors, which inspired two gentlemen readers to reach out to me. Robert reminded me, “Gentlemen, it is always ‘ladies first’ when exiting an elevator!” Kristopher kindly encouraged me to address manners specific to young gentlemen, to instill awareness of proper “door protocol.” Grand idea!
So, dear gentlemen, allow me to share a few timeless suggestions. While some of these customs may seem old-fashioned, the spirit behind them is eternal: kindness, consideration, and—shall I dare say—gallantry. (Plus, a few brownie points in the eyes of a lady never hurt.)
Sidewalks:
When walking with a lady, a gentleman should walk on the side closest to the curb. Traditionally, this protected the woman from passing vehicles and splashes from street puddles. Even today, it remains a thoughtful gesture that demonstrates awareness and consideration.
Staircases:
Ladies go first when walking up a staircase. However, when descending, the gentleman should go first, just in case she may trip or require a steadying hand.
Boarding a Boat:
Gentlemen, board first and offer your hand to assist the lady safely aboard.
Restaurants & Buildings:
Entering? Hold the door and allow the lady to go first. Exiting? It’s considerate for the gentleman to step out first and hold the door open. Why? To ensure her safety in case of any danger outside of the building. (Well, in this day and age, in big cities, this is still a good idea!)
Dining Out:
Let the lady order first, unless she asks you to do so. It’s a respectful gesture.
Car Doors:
Always open the car door for a lady. If it's a hired car, and you're both seated in the back, don’t ask her to scoot over. Close her door, then walk around and enter from the other side.
An exciting and joyful moment with my gallant husband, Stuart, before we entered the car to deliver us to Buckingham Palace to attend a dinner hosted by the Princess Royal, Princess Anne.
While times have changed, the heart of etiquette remains the same: treating others with respect and thoughtfulness. These small acts of consideration might feel old-fashioned, but they never go out of style. And gentlemen—whether you're 18 or 80—kindness will always set you apart as a “Prince of a Man!”
Xx
Holly
PS Happy birthday wishes today to my darling daughter, Alexandra, in Berlin, Germany! We love you to the sun, moon, and stars… and beyond!
